(Closed) My friends sister got proposed to at HER wedding!

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you be upset if someone got proposed to at your wedding?

    ABSOLUTELY! This is MY day!

    No, I understand it was because everyone was there

  • Post # 92
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    That’s pretty terrible! I could totally understand the bride being upset… I mean as much as I love my sister, it would be pretty tough for me to be happy for her in that moment….

    I mean He could’ve gotten with the B&G and maybe worked out a “scheme” to let the sis catch the toss bouquet and then pop the question sometime in the evening or something… but the way it was done is just AWFUL =(

    Post # 93
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Oh hell no… I would be so pissed.

    Post # 94
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d like to vote for ‘other’. I wouldn’t mind if a couple got engaged after a private proposal at my wedding, i.e. between the two of them. I would be upset if they decided to do it in front of everybody and steal my thunder.

    Post # 95
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would have been dead pissed!!!!! thats so rude.

    Post # 96
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    If I were your friend and planning to have kids soon after the wedding, I’d conveniently announce my pregnancy at my sister’s reception. Ha!

     

    Just kidding…mostly.Tongue out

    Post # 97
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    OMG That’s terrible!!!!! My Fiance proposed to me in an intimate setting about 10 days before my cousin’s wedding. I didn’t let wind of this out until after a month after her wedding was done and over with! I didn’t put my ring on at all during that time. (The fact that ring was too big and even though Fiance knew my size, he was just anxious to get it, helped… It was given to resize for a week of that time frame. Hehe! So 3 weeks. But really. You have to give as much as time as you possibly can.)

    Post # 98
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Uh honestly, if I was spending thousands of dollars planning an event where everyone was there FOR MY HUSBAND AND I, I’d be super pissed if that happened to me.

    Plan your own damn event if you want to propose in front of everyone and have a spotlight dance.

    Post # 99
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would be beyond pissed. They would be cussed out immediately and I am not usually one for cussing…. That is just wrong! I cannot believe that anyone would ever do that!

    Post # 100
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @cyndistar3: Ditto. Of all the days and all the times, this is the one that I planned, paid for, and really wanted to enjoy. Everyone’s generally together at Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. If my sister knew, I’d be mad at her, and the boyfriend/FI…wouldn’t be talking to him for a while (after an initial cursing-out). 

    Post # 101
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It depends on how someone would do it, like if the bride and groom knew about it, and were on board, I’d be cool with it, even excited. Just dropping it on everyone is really crappy of him. Then the leave to go look at wedding stuff — wow, just wow.

    Post # 102
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I have thought about this happening at my wedding before and I would be P*SSED!!!! There is absolutely no excuse for someone else to take away your thunder like that. It is beyond rude and inconsiderate. And shame on all of the guests at the wedding for ignoring the bride and groom to gaulk at the sister. The bride and groom spent a TON of time planning that reception and potentially paying for part or all of it, and they should be treated with some respect than that on one of the most important days of their lives. If I had gotten proposed to like that I would honestly be embarrassed!

    I got engaged on April 1st, and the first time I got to see my fiance’s family afterwards (we live 5 hours away) and my friends was when I went back home for my other friends bridal shower. I made sure to call his mom and aunt and tell them that if they woudld like to see my ring before the shower (they were invited as well) to call me and let me know they were outside and I would run out and show them, but that I would not be showing off my ring during my friend’s shower because it is HER day, not mine, and I will surely have my time to shine when my showers, etc. come.

    When it comes down to it, it’s all about respect to me. It was the bride’s day, not the sister’s. He could have planned (with the bride’s help) a family get together the day after the wedding and surprised the sister then; still having everyone there, but not being a complete ass in the process.

    Post # 103
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I just realized that this thread is VERY old. Haha!

    Anyhow, I think that sis who got proposed to is the one who probably suggested to her Fi that it would be a good idea to do it at her sister’s wedding. I really find it hard to believe that a guy would just automatically think that this is ok to do. Guys generally don’t think. Especially not at weddings. They are there to get drunk and party. Hahaha! But looks like he came over-prepared with the poem n’ all and his gf set him up for this. Some kind of sick torture fantasy she wanted to exact on her sis. Very sad………………

     

    Post # 104
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2016

    OMG! I would be so hurt and angry.

    Post # 105
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    That is so rude.. The biggest load of crap every.. and very disrespectful even more so to leave the wedding early.. her sisters none the less. Way to take their special day and steal the spotlight.. The childish part of me would love for your friend and her husband to annouce their having a baby at the sisters wedding.. Like I said the childish part of me. That is so sad tho. She should be happy on her day!! God how rude I would be so mad!!

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