Post # 1
This is my first post and sorry to sound like a scrooge but I need to vent!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 years, we have a 5 year old together and I am still waiting!!!! Last X-mas I fell in love with a ring. I nagged and nagged until he got me the ring ” as a gift because he knows I really wanted it but he still doesnt feel ready”. So of course I felt stupid wearing it knowing we were not engaged so I have had my dream ring for almost a year and still have not have the priveledge of showing it off!
I let him breathe for a couple of months but all of a sudden everyone around me is getting engaged and now i feel furious especially because I have been with my boyfriend for longer than all these people’s relationships combined…AND we have a child together.
So I started complaining….(ok fine more like attacking him) again these past 2 months and he just says I got him sick with the wedding talk and he doesnt want to feel pressured to do anything. Marriage should not be a competition blah blah blah.
So I am left with no choice but to patiently wait but in the meantime I have planned my entire wedding in my head. I am talking everything! from the dress to the venue to the centerpeices etc.. Is this unhealthy?
Post # 3
Don’t worry Special K…my Fiance and I were together 7 years before we got engaged too…its not just you! I was talking to him about marriage for like the last 3 years and he always got ticked off saying he’ll do it when he’s ready, and it shouldn’t be about other people’s pressure.
I let it be and he got me a ring! It will happen soon!
Welcome to Weddingbee, by the way!
Post # 4
You’ve come to the right place! Planning isn’t unhealthy so long as it makes you happy, and doesn’t drive you crazy. I starting brainstorming ideas until I realized that I was too focused on getting married–it made me so mad at my BF. That doesn’t mean I don’t drool over wedding blogs and inspiration boards on occasion, but I’ve limited myself to WB. Good luck!!
Post # 5
Thanks Luli29 …ur so sweet.
I try venting to my friends to avoid bringing up the topic to my BF but they are just starting to think im crazy so now im frustrated and lonely nice to know I’m not the only one impatiently waiting lol
and Congrats on finally getting your ring!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
this is the best place to vent!! I came here during my waiting periods many times…everyone is supportive and will let you know you are not crazy even if you know you are. I had to calm myself down and put my thoughts out here so I wouldn’t drive the guy crazy with engagement/ring talk.
Post # 7
Hi! Welcome! I feel you because people think treat me the same way. They are always asking about when we will get married, but when I talk about things no one wants to listen. I am so glad that I found this website because I am around people that are in a similar situation.
Post # 8
Special K – welome to the club. I, too, have planned out EVERY detail in my head. But that’s only the direct result of being subjected to about 10 weddings in the last 3 years, so I know what I want. How frustrating that you already have a ring but he hasn’t formally asked you! If he went as far as to get you a ring, than at least you know he intends to marry you at some point. But guys need their own time. Hang in there!
Post # 9
welcome to the hive!! i’d definitely come here to vent, it will make you feel so much better to know that there are people in the exact same situation as you are now. i have gone through a huge era of venting (if you read through my earlier posts) to a sort of complacency in the 4+ months that I have been here. And honestly I don’t know if I’d be so relaxed if I wasn’t on this board. It is truly my sanity in days that are insanely crazy with anxiety, joy, worry, and happiness…
Post # 10
Nope your not crazy. Your a Waiting Bee! Welcome; you’ll find many many sympathetic ears (fingers) Hear. Theres a whole section for your to join!! (Waiting)