(Closed) My friends weren't as excited as I thought they'd be :(

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
2368 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

i would say jealous!!!!! some people are weird like that. sorry they are like that!!

Post # 4
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Welcome to being engaged.  Where nobody cares as much as you and your FH about your engagement.  Sorry but it just works that way.  In all fairness, I don’t get all squeely over other people’s engagements either.

Post # 5
7547 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s strange. Do you think people felt like they knew it was going to happen for a long time? I know I dated DH for 5+ years so when I told my friends/family they said “about time!” 

It didn’t mean they weren’t excited later about wedding planning though. 

Post # 6
9538 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

First of all – CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I know how excited you and are and I’m so happy for you. And glad you love your ring. Post a picture and let us gush!

Second, I wouldn’t take your friend’s reaction too personally. Always keep in mind; nobody will be as excited about your proposal/engagement as you are!!! That’s just how things work. Take the compliments you get and don’t stress that there aren’t more. You’re engaged – that’s what’s important! And be sure to not forget about your friends and their lives. And your life outside the wedding.

It’s one of the reasons the bee is so great! You can surround yourself with people who are also wedding-crazy and not bore  your friends to tears with the minutia of wedding planning.

Post # 9
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2006

@Raquel_88:  Congratulations! We are very happy and excited for you!

Post # 10
4462 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Everyone has their own stuff going on. Not like, they’re too busy, but everyone responds to things differently and has their own issues going on. Try not to take it too personally and consider this your first lesson in engagments/weddings that nobody really gives a you-know-what [well, that’s a little harsh and not entirely true, but I’m sure many brides could agree with me that it felt that way at times in their proposa/engagement/wedding planning process]. Really try not to be too hurt and upset by someone else’s actions and feel lucky that you are so blessed.

Post # 11
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

As someone who is standardly the “congrats” person..

No matter how much I adore you, I am not going to fake enthusiasm. I am happy for you — truthfully I am! I am glad you’re engaged and are taking the step forward, but I am not going to start farting out sparkles. No one is going to be as excited as you are. No one is going to care as much as you do.

Just a little “otherside perspective”

We “Congrats” people are truly happy for you — really! We’re just not going to fake enthusiasm for it.


Post # 13
4269 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think the hopping around and screaming rarely happens….

That being said, you will most likely always just get a “congrats”. That dosn’t mean they are not happy for you though.

Post # 15
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Hyperventilate:  OMG, farting out sparkles.  I HAVE to find a way to use this expression!  

Post # 16
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I think when you wait a long time, you’ll get 1/2 “omg omg omg finally congrats!!!” and 1/2 much less enthused because they’ve been expecting it for a long time. I’m not engaged yet but I have a feeling my 2 best friends will do exactly this lol One will definitely freak and be super excited (the same one who is conspiring with my SO about proposal ideas) & the other will probably be a little weird about it because she’s been weird about the DISCUSSION of my getting married lately. I’ve even confronted her about it & she doesn’t know why she’s being weird *shrugs*

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