Post # 1
My fiancė and I have been dating for 6 years (I’m 25 and he is 30).
Our friends, most of them, are around our age with some slightly younger and some slightly older.
i know everyone was expecting it- they would always ask and push about us getting engaged.
i was in no hurry. I love my fiancè, but I’m very secure in my relationship and wasn’t dying for a ring…. But he totally surprised me and proposed with the most beautiful ring I had ever seen!!! sooooo much more than I imagined!!
So when I told our friends, I thought they’d be thrilled and excited and all- but, they weren’t. They weren’t upset or against it, but they weren’t excited either. None of them loved my ring, they barely said more than “Congrats.” And I’m at a loss.
I know its mine and my fiancė’s relationship, and I agree that we should be happy, and we are! So much! But why is everyone else, kinda not?
Post # 3
i would say jealous!!!!! some people are weird like that. sorry they are like that!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Welcome to being engaged. Where nobody cares as much as you and your FH about your engagement. Sorry but it just works that way. In all fairness, I don’t get all squeely over other people’s engagements either.
Post # 5
That’s strange. Do you think people felt like they knew it was going to happen for a long time? I know I dated Darling Husband for 5+ years so when I told my friends/family they said “about time!”
It didn’t mean they weren’t excited later about wedding planning though.
Post # 6
First of all – CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I know how excited you and are and I’m so happy for you. And glad you love your ring. Post a picture and let us gush!
Second, I wouldn’t take your friend’s reaction too personally. Always keep in mind; nobody will be as excited about your proposal/engagement as you are!!! That’s just how things work. Take the compliments you get and don’t stress that there aren’t more. You’re engaged – that’s what’s important! And be sure to not forget about your friends and their lives. And your life outside the wedding.
It’s one of the reasons the bee is so great! You can surround yourself with people who are also wedding-crazy and not bore your friends to tears with the minutia of wedding planning.
Post # 7
@JenGirl: thanks!!! Really appreciate It!! You’re right. Thank u
Post # 8
@AlwaysSunny: we got alot of that too! we’ll see. My fam is excited and my Fiance and I are excited, and you bees!!!! Happy with that! Thanks! 🙂
Post # 9
@Raquel_88: Congratulations! We are very happy and excited for you!
Post # 10
Everyone has their own stuff going on. Not like, they’re too busy, but everyone responds to things differently and has their own issues going on. Try not to take it too personally and consider this your first lesson in engagments/weddings that nobody really gives a you-know-what [well, that’s a little harsh and not entirely true, but I’m sure many brides could agree with me that it felt that way at times in their proposa/engagement/wedding planning process]. Really try not to be too hurt and upset by someone else’s actions and feel lucky that you are so blessed.
Post # 11
As someone who is standardly the “congrats” person..
No matter how much I adore you, I am not going to fake enthusiasm. I am happy for you — truthfully I am! I am glad you’re engaged and are taking the step forward, but I am not going to start farting out sparkles. No one is going to be as excited as you are. No one is going to care as much as you do.
Just a little “otherside perspective”
We “Congrats” people are truly happy for you — really! We’re just not going to fake enthusiasm for it.
Post # 12
@akitten: thanks! Really!!!
Post # 13
I think the hopping around and screaming rarely happens….
That being said, you will most likely always just get a “congrats”. That dosn’t mean they are not happy for you though.
Post # 14
@Hyperventilate: Well I have enough sparkles on my ring. Dont need fake anything. It was more of a perplexity- they were nagging and nagging about when we were going to get engaged, and then we do, and nada. That’s where my question really stemmed from. I completely get what you’re saying, and I soo appreciate your response. I figure tho that you’re probably not the type that would nag a couple either tho. So you see where that confusion came into play. Thanks for your response! Really good to see another perspective
Post # 15
@Hyperventilate: OMG, farting out sparkles. I HAVE to find a way to use this expression!
Post # 16
I think when you wait a long time, you’ll get 1/2 “omg omg omg finally congrats!!!” and 1/2 much less enthused because they’ve been expecting it for a long time. I’m not engaged yet but I have a feeling my 2 best friends will do exactly this lol One will definitely freak and be super excited (the same one who is conspiring with my SO about proposal ideas) & the other will probably be a little weird about it because she’s been weird about the DISCUSSION of my getting married lately. I’ve even confronted her about it & she doesn’t know why she’s being weird *shrugs*