(Closed) My frustration level is steadily rising

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
485 posts
Helper bee

I wouldn’t be too worried. It sounds like he has planned a surprise.

Post # 4
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you have to make decisions.  If this is killing you, ask how long you’re willing to wait and then make that clear to your SO.  Have you looked at Mr. bee’s plan?  It looks good to me.

Post # 5
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

You have to find a way to relax.  Its only been a year!  He wants to do something special for you and you are so fixated on that ring that you are making it hard for him.  Watching every dollar he spends is not going to help.  Be happy you are with a man you love, who has told you he wants to be engaged, and enjoy life!

Post # 6
1566 posts
Bumble bee

It’s not good that he keeps lying to you about this, but maybe he’s just trying to throw you off and surprise you. Since he says you’re still on your original timeline, why don’t you completely stop talking about the wedding until June and give him a chance. I think it’s very possible he’s just waiting for you to stop dropping hints. It sounds like he doesn’t want you to know the month – so if he says February, March, etc, he’s no longer going to propose that month since it won’t be a surprise. So just let him do his thing.


Post # 7
1106 posts
Bumble bee

Aww sweetie Im so so sorry.. I really hope that he comes through!

Post # 8
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have a gf who was in a very very same situation you are in now.  She was on him about the ring constantly and honestly, drove her bf and her friends bonkers with her harping on the ring (not that I’m saying you are at all).  I think your bf might be trying to surprise you.  By the time my friends Boyfriend or Best Friend got the ring, it wasn’t even a surprise anymore.  It became more of a job assignment for him.  I would say to give your Boyfriend or Best Friend some time, but ultimately, it is your decision on if you mind waiting any longer.  But as Janna19 said.. be happy with the man you love, the man who wants to marry you.

Post # 11
30 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I got engaged during my second year of medical school, and married during my fourth, right before I started the Match process. And my husband and I have lived 400 miles apart for the last four years, and I planned the wedding long distance. I completely sympathize with how frustrating and challenging it is to plan anything during medical school, when none of your time is your own. It is certainly easiest to get married the summer right after your first year, but I have 4 classmates who got married after second year, a week after they took Step 1 of the Boards! (And they were women, so they had a heavy planning burden.) My point is simply to give you some encouragement and say that you can get married in medical school whenever you choose. Promise. And I remember waiting being hard, even as someone who didn’t want a ring, and then I badgered him to see it so much the proposal was a bit of a let-down. Facing a move and starting medical school is a lot to worry about. I would focus on yourself and getting ready for school, feeling fulfilled in your career and your life. You’re already ahead of so many of your classmates because you have a loving, committed relationship and while you will find this takes a lot of work to support, you will also be more successful because you have someone behind you.

Just my two cents…it can be done in medical school, whenever. The “timeline” can be flexible.

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