My FSILs are upset with me over Tupperware. Yeah. Tupperware.

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

They’re obviously in the wrong, and you know that. My SIL has had lularoe and Jamberry parties. I felt pressured to support her and buy Jamberry nail wraps, even though I love painting my nails by myself. I spent $40 on something still in my closet. I tried clothes on at the Lularoe party buy as you know, they don’t always have every size. I tried a $35 skirt I liked, but they didn’t have the correct size. I felt guilty not buying anything, but I didn’t want it!

Your SILs are being very petty.

Post # 32
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Worker bee

kittytwo :  I tried selling Origami Owl but then all my stuff started to tarnish!! I couldn’t reasonably ask people to buy something that wouldn’t last more than a few months. 

Post # 33
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337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Butterfly6 :  You must be young. 🙂

Tupperware consultants were the original thing – they more or less invented direct sales as a way for 1950s housewives to earn extra money while staying home.  Even Amway and Marykay came later, and all this other stuff – nails, and leggings, and essential oils and whatnot – owe their marketing existence to Tupperware.

I find it slightly heartwarming that people still hold Tupperware parties – it’s sort of quaint, yes? – even while cursing them for the plague of direct sales that has reigned down on all of us in the decades since.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’ve had to unfollow so many people on FB because of this crap. Last month we went to Vegas and they had a plexus convention. Oh lord I have never seen so many unhealthy, smoking, plump people peddling health crap. I went to Instagram to look it up and surprise they showed all these thin fit women at the convention not the other 95% that we saw in person.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

I have a neighbor who sells Tupperware. She sells a LOT of Tupperware. Every month UPS rolls up and unloads a shit ton of boxes in her driveway and she even has a Tupperware vehicle! So I grew up on the stuff and saw her outside and asked for a catalog. I ordered some. Well what arrived at my home bears no resemblance to the quality product we used back in the day!! This Tupperware is no better than anything I could get at Target or Walmart or anywhere actually. Shitty bowls indeed! So disappointing. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would seriously ask them to meet you for coffee and tell them,

“sil, I’ve noticed that you get frustrated when you have a Tupperware party and I don’t purchase. I understand that this is important to you but I just can’t justify the purchase as Fiance and I have long term goals financially. I can’t help but feeling like you are conflating purchases with love and I’m not comfortable with that. We love you and your family 100%, but the direct sales are getting in the way of that. Moving forward, you can count on us for school fundraisers and sports teams etc but we have now instituted a policy of no purchasing direct marketing from friends or family. We’re taking it out of our relationships so it doesn’t distract from us spending time on each other.”

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

I know these posts shouldn’t make me laugh but they do. Pyramid schemes (refuse to call them MLMs) have been killing relationships for many years.

I’ve lost two friends to Juice Plus and some kind if slimming wrap. One who was actually invited to my wedding started messaging me saying she was sure I wanted to drop some weight for my big day and she had the solution. In the end I told her it was incredibly offensive and she said as I wasn’t supportive of female entrepreneurs she couldn’t support me. 

My mum was shunned at the school gates for refusing to host Tupperware parties. That was 20 years ago. I always wonder what the next annoying MOM will be.

Good for you for standing your ground. They’ll hopefully get over it. It’s Tupperware FFS.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee

Oh. WOW. that is absolutely bonkers. I feel irritated enough by the constant splattering of facebook by people involved in pyramid selling. They’re often using belligerent and manipulative sales techniques (taught to them by the program) on their friends and families..

even if they’re not aware of it, the companies use people as pawns, knowing that they can take advantage of:
a) Feelings of social obligation and
b) Consumers are more likely to believe a nonsensical sales pitch (Like lovelyruby :‘s Mother-In-Law on essential oils “they cure cancer, lower your weight, make you happy, cure migraines, etc.”  ) when it comes from someone they trust.

I went to school for marketing and communications and we studied this in our program.. it’s pretty gross. 

Unfortunately there’s not much you can do about your SIL’s except ignore it. If you give in now they’ll just badger you with their next pyramid scheme and on and on until the end of time. You shouldn’t have to be paying their income. That is not your job. 

 

Post # 39
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Honey bee

I just wanna know if you’ll send this to them, please and thanks 😂

Post # 40
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Bumble bee

Oh I HATE these sales parties with the fire of a thousand suns! I went to exactly one ‘home sales’ party…paid $40 for a pair of sterling silver earrings that I could’ve gotten for $10 at Kohl’s. I only bought them to not “offend” the party giver, who was the wife of one of my now ex-husband’s friends. The next time I was invited, I wanted to ask what the commission was on $40 and I’d just hand her that in cash. lol.  But I declined instead, along with every other ‘party’ of this type I’ve been invited to. I flat out refuse to attend any of these things – they are ALL rip offs on both sides. Buyer overpays, seller typically never makes enough to justify all of the chasing and pissing people off.

Your SILs are being especially assholish about this. Stand firm. Or, turn it around…when they ask if you’re having financial problems, just say you were wondering the same thing about them since they’re selling this crap.

 

Post # 42
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Oh lord they are ridiculous! I had someone try to convince me to buy from their weight loss shake pyramid scheme. I was 5’7″ and 55kg, and they kept going on about their weight loss thing with zero regard to my actual health and the fact that I didn’t need to lose weight. 

Post # 43
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

To be fair, Tupperware does last. Hubby and I inherited a set of nesting bowls from Mother-In-Law and we still use them all the time despite them being from the early 80s.

Post # 44
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Bumble bee

babeba :  They last because they’re from the 80’s. The new stuff is mosly crap. Enjoy your vintage Tups!

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