Post # 1
My boyfriends father is terminal from cancer. We are both finishing up school but know we want to get engaged and get married. We also work and were trying to save some money because we recently bought a house that needs some repairs. As his father has gotten more sick, I brought up maybe having a ceremony and getting married before we would be ready to have a big wedding but something now so his dad would be there. I think he was almost relieved that would be okay with me and he didn’t have to ask. I was wondering how to have TWO official ceremonies?? Both of us and our families know we want a big wedding but we both REALLY want his Dad to be there. What is the right thing to do?
Post # 3
We are having two ceremonies, only the first one is the legal one. We are getting legally married at the end of the month and having our “Blessed” wedding next year. The second one will only get us the church certificate but it is all worth it to me.
Post # 4
So sorry to hear about your FFIL but I think that is a wonderful idea!! I know a girl who was in a similar situation, but it was her father and he really didn’t have a lot of time left so they had a very small ceremony and a party at a family members house last year before he passed. Now they are planning a larger ceremony/reception so they can have their friends and extended family at it.