(Closed) my future in-laws are taking over my guest list!!!!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
682 posts
Busy bee

All depends on  how strict your side of the invites are. 

If your mom can’t invite her friends and spouses, then your FI’s mom can’t.  I like to play the fair game. 


Post # 18
17 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m in the same boat, Mother-In-Law wants to invite more people too. My Fiance and I only want to have 100 guests (50 each) in the wedding. We already made our list. I would say talk to your Fiance so you guys could be on the same page, before talking to his parents. If they’re willing to pay let them pay; remember taxes, centerpieces, drinks etc. all those add up.

Post # 19
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@eam253:  We’re dealing with the same thing. The problem is, it’s not just a “per person” cost for the food/caterer. There’s also additional bar service, additional tables/chairs if necessary, additional linens, favors, etc. It’s a PITA. We have a large chunk of guests who I have never met and Fiance has only met once, if that, years ago when his mother remarried. I keep hoping that they won’t come, which is awful, I know, but they increased our head count by 100 people!

Post # 20
28 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

well we are having the same problem but the in laws are paying for food. I always wanted really small wedding so at the moment we got 45 people on our guest list – we agreed to let them invite 4 more people so they total amount wouldnt exceed 51 in total including me and my future husband. Even they are paying its still OUR DAY and OUR WEDDING so I dont see reason why at our wedding should be people I dont know and I dont care about. And Im pretty sure they dont care too.

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