Post # 17
You are not being materialistic at all! This ring is suppose to be a gift from your fiancé, not his mother, and because you will wear this ring forever, you should love it. Did your fiancé ask her to pick it out, or is it just how it’s done in your family? I’m confused, to me it sounds very strange, but then again it might be common in some families to do it that way.
Post # 18
Once upon a time, my SO tried to pick out jewelry for me. I love him dearly and felt so grateful that he wanted to do this. However, after a comically bad jewelry purchase (thinks hearts and birth stones & children’s necklace by accident), he no longer relies on his own opinions, lol! We went together to look and get ideas, but Future Mother-In-Law actually came the second time & helped him finalize the purchase.
I am blessed that she has pretty good taste (although not the same as mine always) & is always willing to listen to my opinions. Since the family rings they offered to us weren’t my style, she was even nice enough to chip in for the new e-ring. I still hope SO makes attempts to pick out future jewelry on his own, but with such a big purchase, he just didn’t trust himself, even with guidance. My Future Mother-In-Law rocks, so I try to just appreciate her help, even if it misses the mark sometimes. I’m just thankful we have such a great relationship!!
Post # 19
Just tell him you want a simple solitaire… Can’t go wrong with that:)
Post # 20
Is this a cultural thing? The only reason I asked is because you mentioned his mother was involved in the wedding dress as well.
If not tell him you want him to pick it out and not his mother. If she keeps picking out hideous rings are you going to be happy wearing it, o will you just wear a wedding band when all is said and done?
Post # 21
Update: I talked to my future fiance about this, and he felt really bad and totally understood. It is definitely a cultural thing, and something I couldn’t understand because I’ve lived in Canada for my entire life.