Post # 1
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Newbee
I’m not mad, just a little annoyed and confused, because my future mother-in-law went with her to pick out the dress. My future Mother-In-Law is SO nice, I know she didn’t do this to upstage me, and my future SIL is only 20, so I think there’s a good chance she didn’t know the ‘rules,’ just, ugh. The wedding is this December, too, so it’s not even very seasonally appropriate for her. This is the dress: http://www.loveculture.com/1000011867.html?dwvar_1000011867_color_code=100#prefn1=color_code&prefv1=white&start=62
I almost got a similar chiffon dress, J Crew’s Arabelle, and am SO glad I decided on something more formal. It’s a pretty casual wedding, but at least this way I know I will still clearly be the only bride there 🙂
I guess I don’t have a question or anything, I just don’t understand why someone would white to a wedding, especially since she will be in a lot of pictures, and I needed to vent 🙂
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
@laeuba: Could your fiance maybe say something to her? That dress is definitely not bridal, I actually think it’s pretty ugly.. But I still think out of courtesy she could find something else. You’re being so sweet about the whole thing!
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Oh, that sucks. Is there any way someone else in the family could bring it up? Maybe they just don’t know the rules?
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I don’t think that dress is even close to being mistaken for a wedding dress, I wouldn’t say anything.
Post # 6
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Newbee
I don’t think I’m going to say anything. His sister is in a really rough spot financially, she has a 6 month old baby and she works retail and the baby’s father is a line cook. I thought it was nice she wanted to buy ANY dress for the wedding, so I’m trying to focus on the gesture rather than the outcome haha.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA
i have actually been shocked at the amount of people wearing white at the past few weddings i’ve been to. I dont think its cool to do that… i’m sure they had no intention of trying to upstage the bride & had no idea it was such a no-no. still not cool. SOMEONE NEEDS TO EDUCATE THESE PEOPLE!!! Have a mutual fb friend send out a Public Service Announcement about appropriate wedding guest attire lol hmmm i might have to do that myself….
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
@laeuba: Cheers to you for being so adult about it! I would hate if someone did that too, but I weigh it with I’m not in charge of what other people wear.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
@laeuba: Yes, it sounds like she honestly didn’t know. It’s unfortunate, but many people are uneducated on Etiquette.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
My problem with the dress is not really the color, because there is black on the top. It’s not not really wedding appropriate, especially for a sibling’s wedding.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
Who wears a white dress in december? Except a bride, of course.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
I was at a wedding this summer where a guest wore a tight lace white dress. Everyone sorta looked at her like “What in the hell are you thinking?” Not only was it was white… it was super trashy looking.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Aww, you’re sweet! Now I’m worrying that some rude (“honest”) person will come up to her AT the wedding and say something to embarass her.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
@laeuba: It’s an odd choice for a winter wedding nless you’re in the tropics of course. I don’t think anyone’s going to be confusing her for the bride.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
@MeiFrancis: +1 I would never mistake this dress for a wedding dress.
Post # 16
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Newbee
@prahajess: I’m also worried about this! The family already talks a lot about her since she is young with a baby and nobody likes the father. If they talk about her after the wedding I will definitely stick up for her since it’s clearly not a bridal dress, I just hope nobody says anything to her the day of since she already has it pretty rough!
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