(Closed) My girlfriend of 2 years that I was planning to engage just broke up with me

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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9528 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

You purchased a home together a month ago and now she broke it off because of an ex from years ago? There must be something else going on…

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Just go to her and propose. Maybe she doesn’t realize how committed you are to her. Maybe her idea is that she thinks you might be interested in other women, so because her clock is ticking she needs to find another man fast before 40.

If she says no then forget about it. She doesn’t deserve you. Find someone else. I know that is hard and it is weird to propose to someone who just broke up with you but it might be your only way to get her back! Not sure because I don’t know her. If you have another way to show her how committed you are then do that. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

You are going to have to respect her wishes and move on. She could have a bunch of reasons why she decided to leave and maybe she could have handled it better but the fact of the matter is it is her choice.

Maybe the imminent engagement made her think if she really wanted to be with you and her answer was no. 

There is really nothing you can do if she doesn’t want to be with you, you can’t will her to change her mind. The sooner you start to move on the better you’ll feel, sorry OP.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I’m so sorry. It sounds like she isn’t the woman you thought she was. She may just have serious self-esteem issues and not believe that you aren’t cheating, or won’t inevitably cheat, with your ex. Maybe someone betrayed her like that in the past. Whatever the reason, it sounds like you’ve done all you could. It’s going to hurt badly for awhile, but try to focus on doing things you enjoy and spending time with your friends – and your kids, if you can. Try to start letting go of that future you’d imagined with her, and start dreaming up a new vision of your future.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

joelaxiom:  so sorry you are heartbroken. Honestly, in your shoes I’d be wondering if there was another man in the picture. She went from trusting and loving you enough to buy a home together to being cold and rude… Something is shady with her. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

That’s a very sad position to be in. It really sucks.

However, having healthy and positive relationships with exes when you share kids is the goal and, ideally, would be the norm. If you had married her she likely would have caused all kinds of drama with the ex where you actually do have a good relationship. Your kids are more important than her silly insecurities.

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