(Closed) My girls are sad at the amount of gifts under the tree for them!

posted 5 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

You could always suprise them with nothing under the tree.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m just staring at the screen trying to imagine what my parents would’ve said/done to me if I had ever for a second acted (let alone SAID) unappreciative of the type or amount of gifts I was given for Christmas or birthday. I’m pretty sure I would’ve been grounded for a week or more. 

Not only that, but I was aware from a very young age that my parents were actual people with feelings and I never ever wanted to make them feel badly. 

Have you ever actually talked to them about how they hurt your feelings? They are certainly old enough to understand at this point that their words have an effect on you, and you are a person and deserve love and respect. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrskisstobe:  OH.HELL.NO. I agree with housebee, you can surprise them with nothing.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Do they do chores or work for an allowance? I think it sounds like time for them to learn the invaluable lesson of the price of things and how much time goes into saving money. Maybe then they’ll stop being entitled brats about gifts because they’ll understand how much things cost.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mrskisstobe:  My mom would make me go without if I acted like that. I would take back the ipads and have a nice little chat with them christmas morning. i know it would break their hearts but its a lesson that they need to learn.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@CorgiTales:  My thought EXACTLY

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@housebee:  That is totally something I would do.  I would take it away and hide the presents, then when they get upset about it have a talk with them.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

If it were me, the ipads would go back.

I’d tell my children exactly what they were.

Then, go to the dollar store and buy a shitload of cheap things. “Well, now you have all your gifts under the tree. Enjoy it.”

I would absolutely never tolerate my children talking like that, and I’d have no problem taking the ipads back. Bratty children don’t deserve hard-earned things.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is there any way you could take them down to your local Salvation Army and have them donate time with you for an afternoon this weekend, so they can see just how fortunate and blessed they are? It seems to me they need a little perspective to appreciate their blessings, both material and parental.
I’m also trying to figure out what my mum would say to me if I’d been acting up like that…….and all I can imagine is my mum smacking me up the back side of the head and snapping something like “ugh, you’re lucky to get ANYTHING with that kind of attitude! Smarten up, or there’ll be nothing at ALL under that tree for you except for a good hiding (read, spanking)”.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I feel for you. I think one of the hardest things about parenting is being FAIR. i.e. not getting one better gifts than the other. (I have 3 teenagers). For the letters in the room, I think you need to tell the 13 year old: “Your sister got the letters, you got the big party. If you want letters in your room it’s got to be next birthday”.

As for the gifts under the tree, perhaps you should change how you do it? We never do parents’ gifts under the tree. (Partly to not spoil any surprise). The gifts from us are put there when we go to bed on Christmas Eve. So there’s nothing to complain about. Or tell them, “we only put minor gifts (socks + underwear) under the tree before Christmas Eve, you know that!”. I think (or I hope) that when ipads arrive on Christmas morning your girls will be grateful – I think an ipad is a wonderfully generous gift!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Birdee106:  In addition, I would also take pictures documenting that I, in fact, bought the iPads and brought them back. Because I can see pre-teen girls saying something like, “You probably never even bought them in the first place!” And I’m sure it would sting more to see visual evidence of them actually going back to the store. Ya know, direct cause and effect/action and consequence.

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