(Closed) My girls are sad at the amount of gifts under the tree for them!

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
Post # 122
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Helper bee

I havn’t got any children yet but I thought I coul;d tell you what my folks used to say to me and my little sister when we were growing up.

My sister and I were not bratty children as far as I know, and I think it’s because my parents and my nan used to tell uss about all the poor children there are in the world who aren’t as lucky to have warm clothes and food on the table let alone all these nice presents. And most meals we would have my nan would always say when we didn’t want to eat (well she would say it to my sister, I always wanted my grub and still do haha) she would say ‘you should eat all your dinner there are poor children in the world starving because they havn’t got any food’.

So I think taking the girls to see people less fortunate to them like the other Bees suggested is a great idea, they need to see how lucky they are.

And I would wait to give them the IPads too.

And P.S can you adopt me so I can have an IPod haha.

Post # 124
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@rachelmichelle:  +1!!!

I can’t imagine ever saying anything like that to my parents. I would have gotten in more trouble than I can imagine.

Side story…I was about 8 or 9 and my mom kept telling me to clean my room for days and days (you couldn’t see the floor), I never did and she said that if I don’t clean my room, she’ll do it for me, so I thought “sweet! I won’t do it and mom will take care of it!” Well, one day I came home from school and EVERYTHING in my room was gone except for my bed and dresser. The only clothes that were left were my school uniforms. She kept my clothes aside and got rid of everything else. Yes, it was harsh, but to this day, as a 26 year old married woman, my bedroom is ALWAYS picked up.

I agree with PP that nipping this in the bud right now is probably better than on Christmas Day.  I would have the girls unwrap the ipads now, then tell them that because of their poor behavior they will come with me to the store to return them.

 

Post # 125
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@mrskisstobe:  I would respond that I hoped they picked up that new car or iPhone 5 for me for Christmas.  Where’s my present?

My fiance and I debate over what kinds of gifts and technology we will give our child as he/she grows up and expensive gifts will have to be saved for at least partly by the child so they appreciate them and understand how much work goes into making the money necessary to buy expensive items.  Bottomline is that we probably would not buy our 11 or 13 year old child an iPad unless they did chores and could pay for at least half of it.  Santa doesn’t bring electronics.

Post # 126
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

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@mrskisstobe:  I agree it’s probably a jealousy thing that mom is buying all of these gifts for the new baby for her new family and we’re just the old kids from the old family.  Wrap up a few empty boxes or put rocks/clothes in them so they are weighted and make noise so there are more “gifts” for them under the tree then. 

Post # 127
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@howtobeawife:  +1000000.  Keep the iPads, but make them earn the right to use them. Brilliant!

Post # 128
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone has pretty much said it. They need a lesson and they need it fast. When I was growing up my parents were split up so I always had 2 christmas’s. Sure 2 christmas’s sounds like a lot of presents but that was never the case. Both of my parents had jobs that didn’t pay a whole lot. Even when I was 7 I knew what was reasonable for amount and cost of presents were. My parents worked hard for what they could give us. I think it’s wonderful that you are able to provide ipad’s to both of your girls. However, if they are that insensitive to the why they are lucky enough to get it, are they really going to appreciate having them? I hope so. 

Post # 129
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A couple of days later, I just thought of this…

Do they not believe in Santa anymore?  Why are the presents under the tree already?

Post # 133
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@mrskisstobe:   Well, I know it’s nice to have the appearance of gifts under the trees.  But maybe not putting the presents out until the morning of would help with all of these issues.

My Mom still waits to put all of the gifts out for us until Christmas morning and we’re 27 + 23.  They won’t be digging and contemplating.  They’ll be too excited about opening what’s there.

Post # 134
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

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@mrskisstobe:  So you can’t bring yourself to make them face the consequences of their own bratty behavior by not getting the iPads, but you can strip their rooms bare and return the iPads after Christmas?  That doesn’t seem consistent.  You are not going to have to worry about the not appriciating the iPads.  Of course they are going to love them.  They get to act terrible AND get iPads for Christmas.  Who wouldn’t love that?  

Post # 135
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@mrskisstobe:  That’s neat! Taking everything away but the bed and blanket, then work to get it back! I may have missed an update, but what did you decide to do to instill some appreciatinon in them?

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