(Closed) My goal for August… no alcohol… frustrated already thanks to family…

posted 7 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I really don’t understand why everyone is so concerned with your drinking habits??? Honestly people drive me freaking nuts with alcohol. I have absolutely no problem with people drinking, but I don’t understand why it turns grown ass adults into 13 year old pushers. Are we peer pressuring each other still? Really? lol. 

I feel like this has actually affected some of my relationships. My husband doesn’t drink at all– ever. It is a personal choice. He has drank in the past, but he has abstained for the past 6 years what is so wrong with that? But I KNOW a lot of people (some of my family included) think he’s “weird” because of it. (ummm… ok?). I do drink but not much. I hate the feeling of being drunk, I am a total p**** about hangovers, its just not worth it to me. I’ll usually have like 1 glass of wine and then honestly I’d rather just have water…. but I get the same shit “oh you’re no fun….”. Really? I can’t be fun unless I’m hammered? Awesome. 

Ugh… sorry for the rant. Bottom line– your friends/family are being ridiculous. If this is your goal, screw them and stick to it. They need to respect your choice on this.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@CorgiTales: My husband also doesn’t drink – alcoholism runs in his family, he doesn’t like the taste, and he just doesn’t see the point. Now that we’re older, it’s never a problem. But for most of his 20s, it was just ridiculous. I think it makes me people feel threatened or judged, somehow, if you abstain from something that they partake of.

@7SEVENJ9: Sorry your mom is being a pain. I don’t get why she even cares what you drink?  You’re there, you’re celebrating – why do you need alcohol in your glass to make it count?

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@mightywombat: yea. i honestly worry it might affect his job a little bit too… as ridiculous as that is. Just a few weeks ago his boss left the company and they all went out after work for a good-bye party. he never has a problem going out w/ the group he just gets a coke instead of a beer. Well then the VP (i.e. a really big higher-up) shows up and starts buying everyone shots of patron and hands one to my husband and he was like “oh thanks but I don’t drink actually” and he said the guy just gave him the weirdest look. Like I think there is some kind of unwritten rule that “real men do shots” or something? Ugh. 

@7SEVENJ9: another thought… for special occassions sometimes I’ll buy sparking grape juice (in the juice aisle, its actually really tasty)… maybe you could take a bottle of that with you so that you could toast without breaking your goal? 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@7SEVENJ9: Hugs! I’m cutting back on alcohol. I don’t drink around my parents much anymore because I got constant criticism about it. Right now, my mom thinks that we’re trying (won’t until September). She’s worried about fetal alcohol syndrome which I understand, etc. However, we’re not trying, so stop being preachy about it. So, I feel you with that. Could you maybe just have one glass of champagne and say that it’s your alcohol consumption for the month? With the friends party, just drink Sprite or something that looks like a mixed drink.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@CorgiTales: i honestly worry it might affect his job a little bit too… as ridiculous as that is.

I totally get that! It’s not until you’re with someone who doesn’t drink that you realize just how prevalent drinking is in our culture.  Luckily his workplace isn’t one where that’s an issue, but I know it can be.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Since it seems you don’t have support, just stop expecting it.  It is a personal goal, so reach it by yourself.  Do what we tell our teenagers to do at parties.  Just hold the drink and pretend to drink it but don’t actually drink it.  Your mom won’t know you aren’t actually drinking champaigne.  For the rest of the party and at other events, fill your cup, glass, mug with something else.  It’s not like people will go around sniffing glasses to make sure you are drinking alcohol.  

By The Way, I don’t know what your drink(s) of choice is/are but summertime screams margarita to me.  I have found premade low cal margaratas at the grocery store and I even found a 0 cal margarita mix.  Granted, they aren’t as tasty as the good stuff, but they help me keep my calorie intake down while being able to still enjoy margaritas in the summer.  I imagine there are other low cal options out there as well.  

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@7SEVENJ9: I guess you’ll need to bring your own low cal snacks too! : )

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think this is about the champagne at all. I think her feelings are hurt that you will break your self-imposed ban on alcohol for your girlfriend’s housewarming party, but not  for her 50th birthday.

She likely thinks her birthday is more important, as she is your mother and we only are 50 once, whereas the girlfriend is not family and will likely have more than one housewarming in her life.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@julies1949: You may be right!  

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@7SEVENJ9: Hey, I’m not saying you should change your mind. I just think her feelings are hurt.

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