(Closed) My grandfather is sick, and I need some advice.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
457 posts
Helper bee

My first question, are you engaged? If so, then I don’t think that it is wrong to move your wedding up so you can ensure your grandfather is around for it.

If your not engaged, then I would def say that’s the wrong reasons to get married. Though I know how important it is to have grandparents at your wedding day, you shouldn’t get married for that reason. I had always hoped and wanted my grandfather to be around for my wedding. He would talk about it often and wanted so badly to see me married, My now FI( then BF) and I weren’t ready so we weren’t going to rush it. He died 2 months before I got engaged. I thought it would sadden me a great deal, but it didn’t, I got such sastification out of knowing that he would be so happy for me, and was looking down smiling.

I;m getting married next month and I know he will be around for it and approve. My grandmother ( his wife) took a turn for the worse after he died and has not been doing well, she was only given less than a year to live, so when I got engaged, I wanted to try and plan a wedding for a timeframe that she would still be around for. We got lucky and were able to plan a wedding with a year so hopefully she can still be a part of it next month. So in that respect I don’t think trying to plan something a bit sooner is bad idea if that’s what means something to you.

Post # 4
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My grandfather was just diagnosed with luekemia recently (on top of prostate cancer), and despite the fact that the doctors are hopeful (so far), and my family has said he’s ‘okay’ we have been seriously considering moving our date, as it would break my heart to not have him there.

I think moving up the date is 100% OK (if you are already engaged) and if you will be able to afford both.

Post # 5
7 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

Of course its not wrong. At least you have that option. My grandmother suffered a stroke last October and has gotten progessively worse and remains in a nursing home, unable to speak or eat. So taking an outing in a wheelchair is not even a possibility. My wedding is in April, 3 days after her 85th birthday. It would have been wonderful to have her there, but I know that is not an option. So if it is feasible for you, absolutly do it!

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