Post # 1
I found out today that my grandfather has Lymes Disease and he isn’t doing that good, He had cancer prior to this and had to have eye surgery when I was a kid. Is it wrong that I may want to go get married this october (or sooner if it’s that bad) and have a reception next October so that he can see me get married if he takes a turn for the worse? I’m really concerned because they just sold their place in Florida and it was their last year going to Florida, they went every year for winter and they were constant travelers, they’ve been to Canada, every one of the 50 states, and the virgin islands, and it makes me even more worried because they stopped traveling because my grandfather wasn’t able to do it as well anymore. He has a large garden that he still takes care of and is VERY healthy other than that, He exercises and takes vitamins everyday, but now I’m a little concerned.
I really don’t know how to approach this situation because I can’t imagine not having any one of my grandparents not being there.
Post # 3
My first question, are you engaged? If so, then I don’t think that it is wrong to move your wedding up so you can ensure your grandfather is around for it.
If your not engaged, then I would def say that’s the wrong reasons to get married. Though I know how important it is to have grandparents at your wedding day, you shouldn’t get married for that reason. I had always hoped and wanted my grandfather to be around for my wedding. He would talk about it often and wanted so badly to see me married, My now FI( then BF) and I weren’t ready so we weren’t going to rush it. He died 2 months before I got engaged. I thought it would sadden me a great deal, but it didn’t, I got such sastification out of knowing that he would be so happy for me, and was looking down smiling.
I;m getting married next month and I know he will be around for it and approve. My grandmother ( his wife) took a turn for the worse after he died and has not been doing well, she was only given less than a year to live, so when I got engaged, I wanted to try and plan a wedding for a timeframe that she would still be around for. We got lucky and were able to plan a wedding with a year so hopefully she can still be a part of it next month. So in that respect I don’t think trying to plan something a bit sooner is bad idea if that’s what means something to you.
Post # 4
My grandfather was just diagnosed with luekemia recently (on top of prostate cancer), and despite the fact that the doctors are hopeful (so far), and my family has said he’s ‘okay’ we have been seriously considering moving our date, as it would break my heart to not have him there.
I think moving up the date is 100% OK (if you are already engaged) and if you will be able to afford both.
Post # 5
Of course its not wrong. At least you have that option. My grandmother suffered a stroke last October and has gotten progessively worse and remains in a nursing home, unable to speak or eat. So taking an outing in a wheelchair is not even a possibility. My wedding is in April, 3 days after her 85th birthday. It would have been wonderful to have her there, but I know that is not an option. So if it is feasible for you, absolutly do it!
Post # 6
I am engaged, I’ve been engaged since January but we only now started seriously planning in April (after I graduated from college – I was too busy with college to do any planning)