Post # 1
My Grandma was 77 yrs old and died last Wednesday around 9pm. My great aunt and my grandma were driving on 281 in Texas from San Antonio. My aunt must have dozed off…because she crossed the median and went head onto north bound traffic. There were no break marks. My grandma died on impact and my aunt died in the hospital. It was all over the news. her funeral was this Tuesday. She was cremated. I got to see her body before she was cremated. She looked so peaceful…like she was sleeping. I was supposed to read a poem at her funeral..but when it came my time to speak I broke down. My grandma and I had a complicated relationship…so I’m feeling like I don’t have a right to be sad or grieve. I feel regret cuz I never visited her. My dad said she missed me and I didn’t go. Mostly cuz I didnt feel comfortable there and my kids were always bored over there. Bees…what do I do? Please share you grieving stories as well.
Post # 2
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sexymama118: I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I just want you to know that guilt is completely normal. I had a perfectly “normal” relationship with my grandparents and I felt so much overwhleming grief that I didn’t visit more, that I didn’t call more etc. It is part of the grieving process. And of course you have a right to be upset, you just lost someone close to you. I am sorry and sending many hugs.
Post # 3
I’m sorry for your loss. You have every right to grieve and be sad, try not to beat yourself up about the past and just cherish the good.
Post # 4
I felt the same way – in terms of the guilt. I can tell you that it doesn’t matter HOW MUCH you see them (I visited my grandpa several times a week, nearly daily), you still feel guilty for not seeing them more. There’s always something.
I feel for you, OP. Death is a hard thing, especially when it’s out of the blue.
Post # 5
Thanks ladies. This really helps. I’m gonna be going to therapy at the end of this month…so I can get some help sorting this out.
Post # 6
Sweetheart, PLEASE forgive yourself with the knowledge that she loved you dearly, and she will ALWAYS be with you.
I always felt as though I’d spend lots and lots of time with my mom and dad after my baby was born, but 3 weeks after his birth, my dad dropped dead without warning. I honestly didn’t think I could survive losing him, but over time, I’ve come to realize that he’s still very near me, and shows me that he’s around!
Cherish your memories, and use your therapy to reconcile the hard thoughts.
You are not alone!