(Closed) My grandma is making me cry. :(

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

More details? Why is she saying this? And what is she saying it about?

To some degree it can be true, but doesnt have to be. You can do what you want, but have to accept certain consequences. This may mean not accepting money from anyone, realizing that someone or many people will be upset with you. 

The ceremony is about you and your fiance, the reception is not only about you two, but about your guests. If you want it to be only about you and your fiance, its time to elope.

It is all so overwhelming during the planning because everyone has an opinion. Remember what is most important to you and decide what you can compromise on to make the process as smooth as possible. You’ll get through it, I promise.

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Second on what context this was said in??

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hard to comment without knowing the context of her comments. perhaps in her day it was true.

If you are paying for your own wedding, you get to make the decisions.

Post # 6
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Busy bee

Just because SHE didn’t get to have the wedding SHE wanted doesn’t mean that YOU don’t get the wedding YOU want.

Chin up !

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

Maybe she’s jealous because you are getting your dream wedding and she didn’t get to have one. Get off the phone and go calm down.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@brandybelle:  Whelp, Grandma’s invite just got lost in the mail

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@brandybelle:  Seriously, I remember reading on of your prior posts apalled. How DARE your mother go behind your back and make you use a church you don’t want.

Seriously, it’s time to ELOPE. Your family is not going to get better.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

OK I see from one of your old posts that your parents and grandparents are paying for the wedding.

I suggest you refuse their money, and take charge and have a low budget wedding yourselves. You don’t need to elope. A pretty garden wedding and then a small reception with just immediate family, grandparents and some very close friends, which hopefully comes to a guest list of 20-30.

Since you say in an earlier post that “My bridesmaids: Hate every decision I make and are not afraid to show it. “, take the opportunity to dump your entire bridal party, or maybe just have a best man and Maid/Matron of Honor.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@paula1248:  That adds a lot of insight. I agree.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@brandybelle:  It’s not shallow. I LOVED getting wedding gifts heheeh. Basically you have a few choices

1)Refuse your parents and grandparents money and plan the wedding YOU want.

2) Fly to Vegas with your Fiance and get married and have a post wedding receeption with a registry

You deserve to have the wedidng you want. If need be, contact your Future Mother-In-Law and let her know your plans to elope. She will not be happy, but what matters at this moment is the happiness of you and your Fiance.

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@brandybelle:  What breaks my heart the most on the Bee are the posts of brides whose weddings have been hyjacked by those around them. Your wedding is the day YOU have the most emotional investment in, not anyone else.

Please do what is best for you and do not worry about those around you!!!

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