My grandma wants to leave everything to me and not my mom

posted 1 year ago in Legal
Post # 2
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36 posts
Newbee

Hey,

 

but your mother benefitted from the same practice? Ask her what she did when she got sole benefit of the will. Ask hr if her mother threatened her too and if she shared the will.

I find it a bit two faced tbh.

 

Post # 4
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36 posts
Newbee

If you feel like that than you could offer her part to reimburse her once the moment has come.

If it is furniture offer it to her to sell for example.

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

How is it YOUR fault what your grandmother does with HER will?  Are you also responsible if she leaves money to charity, a friend or her cats?

I mean, you can talk to your grandma and explain the situation and you can privately arrange to split the money with your mother.  But overall, she’s being very unreasonable.

Post # 7
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Newbee

lauralaura123 :  So you actually offer her most of it and its still not enough? Bee that is a redflag. She wants it all from her mom.

 

Ask herself would she have done the same and shared with you so willingly? I think greed is making her jealous.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Well then. you can’t control your mother’s choices or your grandmother’s.  It sounds like your mother is opting out of your life over something ou can’t control, and I’m really sorry that’s happening to you.  She’s making an awful mistake, but you can’t stop it.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Also, I’ve got to say that if my mother were willing to cut me out of her life over money I had no control over receiving,  I would take the money and let her scrap the relationship.  She’s making it very clear that she doesn’t care about you the way a mother should, so no great loss there.  I’m sorry for your pain over this, but she doesn’t deserve your grief.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Is this the mom you still have a joint bank account with and who doesn’t let you seek appropriate medical treatment unless it is “her” doctor and dictates how you spend your own money?

You mom is abusive and financially controlling, the fact that she is telling you now that she would never speak to you again if your grandmother gave you the inheritance should be enough proof.  

You offered to give her most of it and it still wasn’t enough!

Post # 12
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36 posts
Newbee

I havent even checked your previous posts.

 

You are in an abusive familial relationship. You granny most likely has realized this and wishes to give you something on the way to fre you of your mother

Post # 13
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m so sorry bee but this is the same woman that complained when you want to the emergency room for a taciocardic episode and said that she could have gone to Europe with that money. There is a very good reason your grandmother is doing this. You would be wise to allow your mum to cut you off 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

lauralaura123 :  

A person has an absolute, legally enforceable right to make final distribution of their assets however they see fit.  If your grandma wants to leave all of her money to the Ladies’ Interplanetary Outreach Society, so be it.

This a situation over which you have zero control.  Fretting over it won’t make anything better.

Let it go.  Work on developing gratitude for a grandma who loves you enough to want to secure your future.

Post # 15
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262 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

So let me get this straight. Your mother benefitted from the exact same system but dislikes it now that it’s your turn. You then offer to pass on her share and she doesn’t want that either because it’s a lot of effort? So she would rather choose to cut all contact with her own daughter, than bother with some paperwork?! Wow. She sounds like a real peach.

I’m sorry you’re going through this but really it’s up to your grandma, to choose what she wants to do with her assets. Your mother will simply have to deal with it or sort it out with her mother. I’d tell her point blank, not to drag you into this.

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