(Closed) my grandmother isn’t coming to my reception because…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You cannot please everyone =( 

Maybe she will change her mind?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry!  Your grandma is just old school and doesn’t realize weddings have changed over the years (for the better)!  You still have a while until your wedding so maybe she’ll change her mind.  If you really want her there just tell her yourself how important it’d be if she was there and maybe she’ll come!  Hope it works out!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

So sorry to hear that your grandma is being difficult! 🙁  Like Krissycake said, maybe she will change her mind?  I think sometimes more “untraditional” weddings are harder for those of the older generation to accept; you should have been there for the argument my mother and I had because I was considering having my wedding in an open loft space (ie, Not A Hotel Ballroom).  Maybe give her some time and bring it up at a later date and just let her know how important and meaningful it would be to you to have her there on your special day. 

In the end, if she chooses not to attend, then she will be the one who misses out.  You will still have a fabulous wedding and most importantly, it will be the wedding that YOU want to have!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

Ouch, that’s harsh, I’m so sorry! Grrrrrr, grandma’s can be so damn prickly and you can’t say anything back to them bc of their age! When I told my grandma what the groomsmen were wearing, she literally BURST out laughing and couldn’t stop.  Talk about rude!

Anyways, that does really suck that she doesn’t think it’s worth coming to your wedding just bc it’s not in a traditional venue.  She still has some time and depending on the pressure your mom (or dad? whose mother is it?) puts on her, she might change her mind.  Another option, and this is only depending on how bad you want her there) would be to call her yourself and say that you are really really sad she doesn’t want to come and explain how much her being there would mean to you….

I am very sorry tho, that is never fun to hear, ((HUGS))

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

That’s ridiculous. And sad. Your grandmother is missing out on all of these important family events because she wont’ let herself go? That’s really too bad. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Seniors… they say what they feel & do what they want, regardless of who it hurts. I have a diffifcult grandmother & I’m trying so hard to develop a tough skin when it comes to her comments & actions. She always has something to say…

If your grandmother has a history of being stubborn & blowing off important life events then I don’t think there is anything you can do to change her mind. If she comes, she comes… if not, then I think you need to just accept it.

It’s horrible & I’m sorry she disapproves of your choice to not have a cookie cutter wedding. Keep your head up 🙂 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

That is just rude and silly behavior on your grandmother’s part, but unfortunately it sounds like it is nothing new from her.  I guess this is one of those moments where you will have to “consider the source” – the comments are clearly coming from someone that is old fashioned and if you don’t mind my saying so rude!

That said, I bet she turns around, decided to come and has a fabulous time.  Tradtional weddings are fun but non traditional ones can be even more fun!!!

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

As difficult as the situation is I think you should look on the bright side, at least your grandmother won’t be bringing her bad attitude to your wedding day. I had an evil step-grandmother when I was little, and she was just as mean and hateful as anyone could possibly be. As the only “girls” in my grandfather’s life she detested my mother and me, she resented any claim we had on his affection. Let me tell you, in the eight or so years between her marrying my grandfather and his death, the best times we had were the times she threw a fit and refused to come to whatever event! I’ll never forget the Thanksgiving she stormed out and my mother, father, aunt and uncle, all over forty, and my grandfather were dancing in her living room because when she was home they weren’t allowed in there! 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

You said it yourself – she’s a pain in the a**

This isn’t about you – it’s about her being a crotchety old woman.  Maybe call her personally and make an appeal to have her come, but if she doens’t that’s on her.  She’s being silly.  Old people are like that sometimes.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I she planning on coming to the ceremony but not the reception?  She sounds really silly, but my grandmother is equally difficult (although not about my wedding thank goodness), so I understand.  Good luck!

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