- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So, as some of you may know, my grandmother was admitted to the hospital a couple of weeks ago for weakness. While in the emergency room the CT showed free air in her abdomen so she was rushed to emergency surgery. The surgeon didn’t find any perforations, which was great, but did find that her intestines were “bubbling” (in his own words). The dr’s believe that she had an immune response that was causing her entire gut to be extremely permeable causing her to be severely malnourished. (the malnourished part we already knew and had been working on figuring out what the issue was for about a year since in that time she had lost 85lbs unintentionally).
Well, this past monday we were starting to get good news that they think they knew the cause and were going to start treatment on her gut. Tuesday things started to take a wrong turn. She began having difficulty breathing over night and an x-ray showed that her lungs were filled with fluid. The next morning (wed) they tapped her lungs and drained 1.5liters of fluid off her left lung and 1.2 liters off of her right lung. Everything was great, she felt better, got off of the bipap machine, was placed on only a small amount of oxygen, and was able to talk and converse without difficulty. Unfortunately, this only lasted about 3 hours. After that she started having a hard time breathing again and another x-ray revealed that her lungs were already full with fluid again. Basically due to her extreme malnourishment, the fluid wasn’t staying in the vessels like it was supposed, instead it was shifting into her tissue, including her lungs.
On thursday, the dr’s called a family meeting. Basically, the dr’s relayed that even though they thought they knew what was causing the malnourishment, she would still be on the IV nutrition for another 6-8 months, and by that time hopefully her gut would starting working and absorbing again. After all of the discussions with the physicians she made it known what her wishes were. She relayed that she wanted to stop treatment and live out the last of her days at home with hospice.
She was brought to a hospice house on Friday instead of home since she still required too much care to be home. She was able to hold on until my uncle flew in from NY early Saturday morning. She passed away just before 7pm Saturday night.
I still think I’m in shock a little bit. This woman was amazing and will greatly be missed by all. I can’t believe that she will not be able to see me walk down the aisle. She was so excited when the whole planning process started. She even gifted us the funds to cover our flowers for the ceremony/reception. I contacted my florist today and told her that I wanted a gorgeous bouquet/arrangement of roses to place on a memory table since this was her absolute favorite flower. It’s the only way I can think to make sure that she is there and is included in our special day.
The other way that I know that she will be present is the fact that she gifted me her wedding set. She made it known on the day we had our family meeting who she wanted her most precious jewelry to be given to. I know that I will cherish this more than words can explain.
If you spent this much time reading, I do appreciate it. I guess the only other thing I have to say is, throughout this hectic and wonderful time of wedding planning, don’t forget to let your loved ones know just how important they are to you. I am happy that I was able to say my goodbyes to her before she passed and she knows how special she is to me.