Post # 47
@CiaArielleNeugebauer: The way I see it is that if she wants to make a spectacle of herself, she can go right ahead.
People are aware of the fact that it’s customary for only brides to wear white.
Will she show you up? No. Will she be mistaken for the bride? Hell no.
This will be a strange old woman wearing a very outdated white dress. It won’t reflect poorly on you at all.
I have to say though, in all seriousness, is your grandmother acting weird in other ways at all? I’m not a doctor, but this doesn’t sound like a normal thing to a) ask in the first place and b) keep insisting on. I wonder if something else is going on with her mentally…
Post # 48
@CiaArielleNeugebauer: Following up with a helpful reply- Why don’t you throw a wedding dress party so she can get to wear it in a social setting? My SO’s parents throw a party every couple of years where all the guests wear their old wedding attire (if they can fit into it.) Make it a fun pre-wedding party for all the older guests to come to. Grandma can have her chance to shine.
Post # 49
I persoanlly would let her wear it. NO ONE is going to mistake her for the bride or think she is competing with you. I would find it very endearing and definitely unique.
Post # 50
Someone did suggest that and I would consider it save for one thing… No one else in my family could possibly fit into their wedding dresses anymore except my grandmother, and due to her surgery I am betting she was a good 50 lbs heavier than she is now when she was married… This wedding occurred after having 3 kids.
At this point I am doing one of two things… Either one, let mom handle it. Or two, kidnap her and take her shopping for a new dress.
A part of me also wonders if I go over and flat out ask her if she would try it on for me, she might get it on and smile at her memories and at the same time come to her sense and see that it’s not appropriate to wear to my wedding.
Post # 51
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Heh, Miss Havisham is that you?
Post # 52
I think you really need to tell her how you HONESTLY FEEL! Quit saying things to yourself and holding stuff in.
She’s being rude, and frankly in my opinion, sounds like she wants some attention.
Put your foot down!
Post # 53
WOW sorry you have to go through this, good luck!
Post # 56
I agree… but if an older lady comes dressed wearing a retro wedding dress to a wedding people unfortunately will most likely laugh.
I don’t think most people would laugh with any malicious intent but from more of a WTF angle???
People judge…its not morally right but it is the truth.
I would want to save someone from feeling terrible and uncomfortable in a social situation.
Post # 57
HAHA I love that. “No grandma, you sound crazy. Stop it.”