(Closed) My grandmother wants to wear her wedding dress to mine

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 47
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@CiaArielleNeugebauer:  The way I see it is that if she wants to make a spectacle of herself, she can go right ahead.

People are aware of the fact that it’s customary for only brides to wear white.

Will she show you up? No. Will she be mistaken for the bride? Hell no.

This will be a strange old woman wearing a very outdated white dress. It won’t reflect poorly on you at all.

I have to say though, in all seriousness, is your grandmother acting weird in other ways at all? I’m not a doctor, but this doesn’t sound like a normal thing to a) ask in the first place and b) keep insisting on. I wonder if something else is going on with her mentally…

Post # 48
558 posts
Busy bee

@CiaArielleNeugebauer:  Following up with a helpful reply- Why don’t you throw a wedding dress party so she can get to wear it in a social setting? My SO’s parents throw a party every couple of years where all the guests wear their old wedding attire (if they can fit into it.) Make it a fun pre-wedding party for all the older guests to come to. Grandma can have her chance to shine.

Post # 49
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I persoanlly would let her wear it. NO ONE is going to mistake her for the bride or think she is competing with you. I would find it very endearing and definitely unique.

Post # 51
1374 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Heh, Miss Havisham is that you?

Post # 52
5486 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think you really need to tell her how you HONESTLY FEEL!  Quit saying things to yourself and holding stuff in.

She’s being rude, and frankly in my opinion, sounds like she wants some attention.

Put your foot down! 

Post # 53
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

WOW sorry you have to go through this, good luck!

Post # 56
4870 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@pokey730:  I agree… but if an older lady comes dressed wearing a retro wedding dress to a wedding people unfortunately will  most likely laugh.

I don’t think most people would laugh with any malicious intent but from more of a WTF angle???

People judge…its not morally right but it is the truth.

I would want to save someone from feeling terrible and uncomfortable in a  social situation.


Post # 57
13 posts
  • Wedding: November 1999

@HappySky7:  HAHA I love that. “No grandma, you sound crazy. Stop it.”

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