Post # 1
So my grandpa was diagnosed with colon cancer in 2009. He’s been through chemo (which, shocker, didn’t work and made him worse), developed diabetes as a result, and got pretty frail very quickly. His birthday was yesterday (Sunday), and my grandma wanted us all over there because he was getting much, much worse (he’s been in and out of the hospital a lot recently and on hospice care when he’s out). He slept on the couch almost the whole time and was very out of it for the few minutes that he was awake. He fell asleep eventually, a deep sleep (snoring) that he hadn’t had in a really long time. I think I knew, when we left, that he was going to pass soon.
My grandma called me just now, and I knew it wasn’t going to be good. The hospice nurse came today and told her that he has 24-72 hours left. I don’t know what to do. :'(
Post # 3
@vorpalette: Oh no. Can you go see him? Does your grandmother want everybody to come back over? *hug*
Post # 4
@vorpalette: *hugs* if you’re close enough, try to see him again. If not, try to take comfort that he won’t be in pain anymore and since you were all just there, he knows how loved he is. This is hard, and I’m so sorry you’re going through it 🙁
Post # 5
We are never ready to say good bye to the ones we love. This is a hard tme for you and my heart goes out to you.
Supportng your Grandmother may be the only thing you can do right now. Vist again if you can. Sit with her and share the wonderful memories of your Grandpa. Take some pictures to share if you have them. Makes a great conversation starter.
Talk to him too. We never know when people can hear us. Tell him you love him and share what he meant to you..
Take a casserole or something she can put in the freezer for those days when she doesn’t feel like cooking, or when there are other family members visiting.
Post # 6
🙁 so sorry, praying for your family.
Post # 7
@julies1949: very good advice.
I’m so sorry you are going through this 🙁
Post # 8
*hugs* So sorry to hear that.. I feel your pain on this one, my grandpa passed away in June and it was really hard on me. I would definitely visit with him if you can stand it.. I know that’s not an easy thing to do. But I felt a lot of comfort in knowing that the last time I saw my grandpa, I told him that I loved him, and he told me the same. God bless you..
Post # 9
@vorpalette: Awwww…I’m so sorry. If you can, try to be there with Grandpa and share with him your love and happy memories. Hugs!
Post # 10
Just wanted to say that I’m so sorry to hear this 🙁 Sounds like your grandfather is kind of passing away the way mine did 🙁 It so hard and I also didn’t know what to do. We were very close. In general, hospice is a very good place to be for the final days. In my experience, they do everything they can to make the patient and family as comfortable as possible. Thinking of you. Very very sorry.
Post # 11
My grandpa passed away in June. It was very tough on my father, grandmother, and myself. I dealt with it by remembering our best memories of my grandpa with my sister and my family. I also cried myself to sleep every night for a week. Time heals all and it will hurt a lot, but eventually the pain will hurt less and less. My grandma is actually doing fantastically these days. She was always a social butterfly, but now she is out and about with her friends, having people over for dinner, etc. Go see him if you can. I didn’t get to see my grandpa and I wish I could have.
Post # 12
I’m so very, very sorry. I am keeping you in my thoughts.
Post # 13
My heart goes out to you. Thinking of visiting my grandpa the last time while she was in hospice has brought tears to my eyes. What I did then that I think about often was sit by the bed, hold her hand, tell her i love her and tell her one very good memory I had of the two of us. please remember that he is at peace now.
Post # 14
My thoughts are with you right now. My grandpa passed away earlier this month and I know that it is so tough. Think of the happy memories you have and go to see him again if you can. I hope that you can find peace in this very hard time.
Post # 15
@vorpalette: sorry to hear this, if you can go and say good bye it would be good, its hard when you dont get to say good bye in person….
Post # 16
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I’m sorry hun, it’s a very hard thing to go through, especially when you are subconciously waiting for that phone call **hugs** He will be at peace soon and I hope that is some comfort.
I agree. Say goodbye however you can. You will always be glad you had that little bit of extra time.