(Closed) my grandparents keep telling me how much they want to help me…. what now?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@stephanie63087:  How about just asking them what they had in mind?  Then they can either offer up a dollar amount or ask you what you need. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

YOu could ask if there is a particular aspect of the wedding they would like to be responsible for that has meaning to them, like the officiant, florist or DJ. Or you can let them know what you have alraedy done, and what is left to pay for/do and ask if they would like to contribute.Talking about money is always awkward when you want to get to the specifics. Sometimes its easier to be blunt the overly polite, so things actually get done.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

To start the conversation I would suggest focusing on a particular aspect of the wedding rather than a dollar amount.   Say something like “Grandma and Grandpa, you have offered a few times to help out with the wedding and if you are still willing we would love to take you up on that offer… is there something specific that it would like to help with (flowers, music, bar, etc.)”

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Yes ask them what they had in mind or what they would like to pay for. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Those are all really good suggestions.  Even if they never do offer up a set amount of money, I’m sure you could involve them in the planning…  For example, maybe set up a date with your grandma to stuff envelopes for the invitations, or your grandpa could be in charge of leading the decoration team the day of.  Something like that would be great!

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