(Closed) My great grandmother passed away yesterday..

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m really sorry for your loss πŸ™ It’s really messed up that no one told you about what happened and how you had to find out. You and your family are in my prayers. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I’m sorry hun. I know where you’re coming from about the family thing. All you can do really is focus on your own family (you and husband and future kids)

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aw I’m so sorry sweetie. I’m here for you if you need to talk to someone!

Post # 8
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose:  Yea. I can only imagine what you will be going through emotionally. But you will have your mom there, so you won’t be totally alone. I guess my only advice would be to not let the issues with your family take over the reason why you’re going there, and that’s to pay respect to your great granny..if that makes any sense

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

πŸ™ I am so sorry. It’s tough enough losing a family member, but I cannot imagine how hard it must be to be in your position! I admire you for going to the funeral despite all the conflict and hard feelings between you and your dads side of the family. You are a very strong person and I am sure you grandmother would be very very proud of you! Keep your head up and know that you are absolutely doing the right thing! <3 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for you loss.  I am also very sorry you found out on FB.  Prayers and thoughts to you.  I’m glad you have your Darling Husband and mom going with you for support.  Maybe go in your car and scream..  Makes me feel a little better..

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss, sweetie.  And I’m sorry about how you found out.  I’m glad you have happy childhood memories of her.

Post # 13
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss,an uncle I grew up with and was very close to passed away a few weeks back and because family drama the funeral is finally tomorrow after weeks passed ..having a death so close to my wedding date breaks my heart knowing my uncle should be there:'( your great grandma is in a better place rite now,and you are very strong to be attending..i know this won’t make you feel better bit maybe knowing that I will be in somewhat your shoes as well this weekend ,my dads family will divided at the funeral due to family drama ,and most of them aren’t Invited to the wedding and they know and had strong reactions towards that so theres going to be huge tension.I’m not looking forward tomorrow or Saturday:/

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@Sweet.Sugar.Rose:  Ohh πŸ™ I’m so sorry. Death of a loved one is never easy, no matter their age or if you were recently in touch with them. keep your chin up! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss.  My grandfather just died in November, and even though he was 106 it was a pretty sudden decline and we were close; I still fall apart at least once a week.  I can’t imagine finding out from facebook πŸ™  

Please stand up for yourself and don’t pretend everything is fine, especially if anyone tries to guilt you into bottling things up.  I mean you can if you want and you think it’s best (you are the absolute best judge on that), but you shouldn’t have to, that’s not fair at all.  Your father wasn’t at your wedding.  Luckily you have a stepdad who you love and who treats you like his daughter from the sound of it and ultimately your father will probably regret not going more than you will regret not having him there, but it’s still a hurtful thing.  If those emotions come out, it’s okay.  Funerals are emotional.

I’m not saying this is entirely the same, but my sister’s father didn’t come to her wedding either.  None of that side of the family did.  He refused to talk to her or come because she stood her ground on not having a second wedding in his state; he called her selfish.  It wasn’t until she had a baby that he called her and apologized.  He was the one to admit he was in the wrong, and he was the one that started the reconnection process.  Now they’re a lot closer; they’re the closest they’ve been since the divorce.  He’s a great grandfather to her kids and he’s really trying to be a good father for her.  Again, I’m not saying it’s the same or that the same thing will happen, I have just seen a father-daughter relationship that I thought was damaged almost beyond repair turn into a much better situation.

Good luck, I’m sending good thoughts your way.

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