Post # 1
I just found out this week that my fiance may not be able to attend our rehearsal dinner. He is in graduate school and has a scheduled final for that day in a town 5 hours away from our hometown wedding. We were aware of this schedual conflict before we planned out wedding date and he spoke to the professor about our sitiuation since the only date option we have was for a Friday the first week of May due to his summer class schedual and honeymoon plans. His professor told him that he would work something out and to just remind him. Now his profressor is not being so accomodateing and has said to plan to take the final that day at the schedueld time. There is no way he could make it to a rehearsal before 10pm or maybe even later.
So does anyone have a suggestion about how to make this work?
a)Should I have rehearsal that morning ( it is an evening wedding)?
b)Should we just have a really late rehearsal?
c)Or should I just have the rehearsal with out the groom? (This option makes me very sad.)
Any other options or opinions? I really need some advice.
Post # 4
Do whatever you need to do to make sure he’s there. There’s no point in a rehearsal without him.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I think a rehearsal the morning of the wedding is probably the best idea. Don’t worry, though – everything will work out! We had trouble getting my dad (our officiant) to the rehearsal (he was flying back from out of town and had massive delays). We ended up having a really late rehearsal since it was just our families after we got back from the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 6
Wow, that’s unfortunate that the professor isn’t working with you. If it were me, I would just try to have it either that morning or the day before.
Post # 7
Do you have to have it that Friday? what about Thursday? or any day the week before? That might not work out if you have bridal party people flying in from other places though. But if 90% of the wedding party is in town that might work.
Post # 8
We didn’t really do a rehearsal. We just met with the officiant about a 1/2 hour before the ceremony and went over what we were doing. I mean, its a 15 minute ceremony, and all we had to do was repeat after him when he told us to, so how hard could it be? Don’t stress yourself out over the rehearsal!
Post # 9
If you Fiance is comfortable with it I would seek the professor’s boss (the dean/director of the department) or even his scheduling counselor.
Accommodations for finals have to be available. When I was in college I know for sure two different times a peer of mine needed to make arrangements.
The guys getting married for peet sakes! Maybe he should find a female superior to help him out:)
Post # 10
Have it early that morning then have a rehearsal brunch and do everything you would have done at the rehearsal dinner. Except probably have a different menu!
Post # 11
I’d do the rehearsal a day early or something! Don’t do it without him!
Post # 12
Why dont you have the rehersal a few days before the wedding? I really think the groom should be there to attend his own wedding rehersal!
Post # 13
I’d go with having a rehearsal breakfast the morning of the wedding.
Post # 14
As a grad student…. You can’t do the rehearsal the day before his final, trust me. Come on guys, he’s getting married AND he has a final to be stressed about. I’d definitely consider speaking to another superior at the college, if that isn’t an option… The best alternative is to have the rehearsal the morning of the wedding. I know it may feel rushed, but an early morning rehearsal might put your nerves at ease. But it needs to be early… No matter how late you think the wedding is and how much time you think you have, it is not enough. with hair and pics, it’s likely that you’ll be rushed if you don’t finish rehearsal til after lunch. Also, if you are worried about breaking tradition of him seeing you prior, just take comfort in the fact that he is not going to see you in the dress. 🙂 I doubt he would want to do the rehearsal late fri night after taking a graduate exam and driving 5 hours. Just a thought. He loves you, and he’d do it if it’s what you want… But I doubt he’d be thrilled. Hope this helps! Good luck!