(Closed) My grooms outfit – VENT

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Should I have a say in my groom's tux? Please read post for full details

    Yes - especially since you care so much about it

    No - let him dress himself how he likes

  • Post # 20
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My fiance wants to dress like Prince William did, sash and all… I’m nervous that he is serious. haha

    Post # 21
    13094 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think that the bow tie and vest look quite nice (and some of the images PPs have provided are HOT!).

    More seriously, I think the groom should get to pick out his own outfit (unless he explicitly asks for your help).  You got to pick out your own dress, right?

    Post # 22
    3456 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Tricky.  Are you letting him have final say over your dress?  In that case, I think you can continue to argue the point, but otherwise…

    Hot pic. I’m sold.

    Post # 23
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I personally hate the vest (my groom wont be wearing one), so I can see how it would bother you. But if he feels that strongly about it, you should probably just wave the white flag..it’s not worth it. I think he’ll end up looking great, and who knows, maybe surprise you!

    Post # 24
    450 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    My guy will be doing the vest/bowtie thing as well. No jacket. We are having a fairly casual wedding in that the guys will be wearing black jeans, black vest, ivory shirt and camo bowtie.

    Like OP said… it is his wedding as well.

    Post # 26
    1086 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    This might make you feel better…lol. My husband actually wanted to dress like a Charro (Mexican cowboy) on our wedding day. I told him it was fine, but then he changed his mind. But my point is, as long as he won’t be dressed totally different or like the suits on Dumb and Dumber, don’t worry 😉 I say let the guys have their fun too..

    Post # 27
    466 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

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    @Talishazwi:Can I register for this? Somewhere? Yum.

    Post # 28
    3525 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you should drop it. Isn’t it more important that he likes how HE looks on HIS wedding day as well?

    I highly doubt on your wedding day you will be worrying about the fact that he has on a vest.

    Just a thought.

    Post # 29
    152 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My thoughts-He (probably) didn’t dictate what style of dress you can and can’t wear, so why should you choose what he is going to wear?

    I had a major break down when my Fiance showed me what he picked out….We spent HOURS pouring over photos until we decided on a charcoal gray suit with charcoal grey vests, just vests for the gmen, and blue ties for the gmen and white for Fiance. So I was a bit p.o.ed when he picked out a black suit with blue vests for the gmen and a black suit with silverishy vest and tie for himself. I had a minor bridezilla moment, but got over it because I told myself he got to choose what he is going to wear, just like I did. I was still pissed that he had me spend so much time to find somethign we agreed on, but I trust that it will be okay. *sigh* It was just one of the (few) things I chose to not stress about. HTH!

    Post # 30
    63 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It is also sometimes called a waistcoat, and is an accepted part of formal attire.  See:  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suit_(clothing)

    You may not like the way it looks, but it sounds like he sure does!  How are the two of you doing with compromising on other aspects of wedding planning?

    Post # 31
    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Let him pick his own outfit! It is his wedding too and most likely you’re will probably get to choose most other details of the wedding. lol. Let him have this one little thing…especially if he is so adamant about it.

    Post # 32
    23584 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @spartal: Girl, I know EXACTLY what you’re going through.  I struggled with this one.  I wanted my husband to wear a tie, but he had an image that a Groom wears a bow tie.  I finally settled on telling him that since I got to choose what I wore that day, he should be able to choose too.  We ended up calling a compromise and gave him 2 options – a tie that we bought together, and a bow tie with his tux rental. I was pleasantly surprised at the first look that he went with the tie!

    All this being said, a bow tie with a vest does feel a little dated in my head (maybe too prom-my?).  But, he definitely should feel comfortable with what he’s wearing on the wedding day.  Imagine how you would feel if he chose your dress and it’s not what you had in mind?

    Post # 33
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My groom wore a bow-tie and a vest, but in WHITE. It was a nice compromise. He was worried that the white wouldn’t show enough contrast and wanted a darker color, but afterwards he saw the pictures and said “oh, that looked good”. I also forbid him from matching anyone’s color to my bridesmaids dresses. It irked him at first…but there are so many decisions to be made for a wedding that we got that one out of the way fast and moved on to more important things. It is all about compromise for everyone.

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