Post # 17
I’m so sorry for your loss. I too lost my dad 1 year and a half ago to cancer. The few months before he passed he was in so much pain and his health plummeted so quickly. I was really close to my dad. There were so many things I had yet to do with my dad, I really wasn’t ready to let him go yet. I finally graduated from graduated school (which he was anxiously waiting for), he didn’t see me get married, or have kids. But when he passed my initial reaction really was he’s at a better place. No more suffereing for him. The aftermath is really hard to deal with tho.
Everyone is different but I’m having my mom walk me down the aisle when I marry next year. My bouquet will have a pendant with a picture of my father on it. My mom threw away alot of my dad’s cloths but she has a few jackets left. I’m cutting up a piece of it (into a heart shape) and sewing it onto my dress. I haven’t decided inside or outside of the dress. But all things that can make me feel like my dad is sharing the moment with me.
I wish you well and let all the good moments you shared with your guardian push you through all the bad times
Post # 18
What a wonderful man. I’m so sorry for your loss. You and your guardian-mother will be in my thoughts. I know that he’ll be in your thoughts on your day, too.
Post # 19
Thank you all again. I can’t believe it’s been 3 weeks. It really feels like yesterday.
I wanted to give an update: We’re flying out to CA on Friday for my guardian’s memorial on Saturday…then we fly back to WA on Sun for me to begin my finals week.
We got my guardian’s father of the bride hanky embroidered. There was a lovely woman who does it locally and she did a beautiful job. For some reason bringing this to his memorial is very important to me. I want him to always know that his place is beside me…including our wedding day.
The ex who’s family is hosting the memorial and I spoke at length today. It started out as a bunch of rambling rocky texts and got increasingly heated. I decided to bite the bullet and called him and we reached an understanding. He will be talking to his wife to see if they would be willing to change their plans and not attend. We discussed that we’d like our spouses to meet but this isn’t the best time. It’s going to be quite stressful as it is.
So, I’m waiting on pins and needles to find out if they are or aren’t coming. If they’re not, then I can breathe and just go to the memorial and grieve in peace. If they are going whether I go is TBD. It’s maybe unfair of me to need this, but I do.