(Closed) My guests are selling their “+1”

posted 11 years ago in Parties
Post # 75
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@sceeder: They can have dry chocolate chip cookies for dessert too. It’s perfect!

Post # 77
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@sceeder: OMG LOVE IT!

 

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@VirginiaMarie: and i just snorted water out of my nose with the “OH LOOK BAKED LAYS!!” lol

Post # 78
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Worker bee

@VirginiaMarie: I hate to be gloom and doom, but if this kind of stuff is happening, things could really go off the rails with this groomsman behavior closer to time.  I think your Fiance should talk to them about what a wedding means to the two of you and what your expectations are for their roles.  

It’s ok to look back one day and say “boy, I was young and dumb in college and did some crazy things”.  It’s a whole other ballgame to look back and say that about a wedding.  Maybe I’m harsh, but I would nip it in the bud and get them to straighten up and fly right.

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee

@ohnyc: I agree, if they’re pulling this stuff now, what else could they potentially do by the time of the wedding.

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

Ohh, VM, I gotta tell you, I have a few immature and clueless groomsmen in my wedding party too, and I can absolutely envision a few of them doing something like this if the option arose. I’m certain they have no idea that this was a tasteless thing to do. In fact, I can practically hear their guy-logic now–“hey, I have the option of bringing someone with me, and this girl wants to GIVE me $35 to come?! SCORE! Even better!” I can virtually promise you that my brother would think that was a totally logical course of action.

I’d be more irritated at the girls, honestly–sounds like they are mostly just looking for a free steak dinner and a chance to get boozy on your dime. I just went to a wedding recently where the bride’s younger brother (who is my brother’s age) invited a bunch of girls to crash the last hour of the wedding and they all got trashed like it was a keg party. I know people don’t like this word, but I think the situation warrants it: SO TACKY.

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Yeah, VM- in no way is this right!  I am just not sure what, if anything, to “do” about it.  It is so trashy and disrespectful of them!  I would be pissed.  I think the boys that did this may have to be confronted.  It is just so weird!

Post # 83
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Some people go crazy when they hear wedding, remember Wedding Crashers?? Lol, no really in all seriousness, everyone wants to get invited, for example I was informed my dads ex-girlfriends daughters friend think she should be invited to my wedding!

I totally feel you and that would frustrate me, I mean its one thing it these people felt they were close enough friends to be invited, that would warrent a phone call but to PAY to ne a plus one is just tacky, I would feel so insignificant and embarrassed, you should let it be known these practaly strangers are paying to come to your wedding, they might decide to stay home!

Post # 84
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh noooooo!  This happened to a good friend of mine 2 summers ago!  I totally know what you are saying… a group of our guy friends decided to just bring this group of girls from college they used to party with who we all “knew” but weren’t at all friends with.  Of course they all think they are going to have a blast and “let loose” but I remember how annoyed the bride was.

Here’s the kicker… one of the tag-a-long dates CAUGHT THE BOQUET!  

Best of luck… I think you’ll be to busy having the best day of your life to notice Wink

Post # 85
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Helper bee

VM ~ you have such a good attitude…..just catching up with this thread now.  You rock, girl!!!  You truly are totally cool!!!!!!!  Feed them subway!!! LMAO

Post # 86
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well if they are willling to pay that aren’t looking for free booze and food, maybe just discounted.

If these girls are coming anyways, how about sending them their own invitations without plus ones of course, then they would obviously back out of paying the guys. Then tell the guys, hey since you guys didn’t care who your dates were anyways i invited a few girls you may like so go ahead and come solo.

Post # 87
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh heres another idea, get their pictures off their facebook page, give it to the bartenders and say, these girls are known to carry fake ids and drink way too much. So please make sure they aren’t served. I know totally irrational, but its fun to think of.

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is such an interesting post!   I wondering if you somehow made it known to the girls who “paid” or offered to pay to attend your wedding that you and your fi KNOW that went on?  I wondering if those girls would feel humiliated and back out?  And maybe that would stop other unwanted guests from trying to do the same?  

I dont have facebook but I think it would be funny if you or one of your friends posted something passive-aggressive like “dress- $500, veil $200, band $1,000- finding out people are paying to be someones date just to attend my wedding- priceless” lol… but thats just me 🙂

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