Post # 90
Hey, this is the first thread I’ve read in its entirety!
This is exactly why we’re not having any plus ones. People are so f**king stupid and rude. If you barely know them, unless they’re legit stalkers, they barely know you too…which means that they just want to hang out with old college friends and party on your dime. I’m willing to bet that if you allow them to come, these bimbos are going to get obnoxiously drunk and make fools of themselves.
I think the thing that blows my mind the most is the fact that this didn’t happen just once. Are the girls all friends with each other?
You have a great attitude about it, VM, which is incredibly amazing. But, it’s your WEDDING, not a frat party. Be a bitch or a bridezilla. Tell those dumbass groomsmen that they can either uninvite their dates or none of them are invited.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck. =]
Post # 91
Wow! I would feel like a loser if I had to pay someone to take me somewhere as their dat. Maybe your Fiance should buy those groomsmen some giftcards to subway as a gift. lol
Post # 92
That is so creepy. I had people (we used to be friends) grilling me in the lead up to my best friend’s wedding grilling me about the date and location of the wedding cos “they wanted to go and see the wedding”… not be there to support the couple, but be there to see it, like it was a great spectacle that they wanted to view. I was so offended by this. I know they want to do the same thing for my wedding. So people’s attitudes to weddings are so out of line!
Post # 93
Oh VM! This is so funny but I agree you have the right to be somewhat upset!
I totally would start telling your Groomsmen and others that since the guest list is growing, you guys are going to have to scrap the open bar idea. Or tell them that there is a limit and after that it will be a cash bar. Anything to try to deter these people.
Oddly enough one of my close girl friends is now dating a guy from high school that was the older brother of one of our friends. When I ran into them at the wedding (when I was going around saying thanks to everyone) it was probably the most awkward moment of the wedding. We both were like oh hey, nice to meet you, I mean I know you, should I hug you, but I really don’t know you that well. They are very seriously dating so I was really happy to have them there, but it was for sure awkward.
There were two other friends that brought dates that they weren’t even really dating. However, this ended up being fine, i didn’t even run into them and one couple gave a really nice gift.
Post # 94
I missed a part of this thread becasue I am on my way to church, so sorry if this was already suggested. But, I would revoke the +1 privledges of anybody who did this (sold the invite) and I think I would explain why you did it. I know you said you meant it when you offered +1’s but I know what weddings cost… My fiancee and I are “well-off” and even WE have limited the guest list to 100 (thats the max my venue will hold), cash bar, and lots of people are not geting +1. The people who show, will be the ones who are most meaningful. At 25, I am sure there are plenty more things you can do with your money than to pay for booze and $$$ dinner for a bunch of aquaintences who were tacky enough to do this. Also, IF THEY ARE THERE FOR FREE OPEN BAR – depending on your state you might be responsible if they do anything to the room or even if they go out and get into an accident driving home. Do you really want to spend your whole wedding watching how much people are drinking and worrying that they might break something and drive home? I think you have a potential nightmare on your hands and if you gutsy up and stop it now I think you will dodge a bullet. Sorry to sound mean,but I am really worried about the suonds of this…
Post # 95
Maybe you could sell wristbands too? Or have their hands stamped with black light ink so they can get into ‘the wedding/the club’?
You’re spot on, this is a party opportunity and you should shut it DOWN! 🙂
Post # 96
No advice but lots and lots of hugs! And don’t let it ruin your planning or your day…things will go wrong but your wedding will be fabulous and perfect, don’t you worry!
Post # 97
This might just be the creepiest thing I have heard!
Post # 98
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Oh my goodness, VM, I don’t even know what to say. This is horrible and hilarious at the same time. Between Mrs. Crazy and people selling their +1’s like concert tickets, you have quite a few interesting stories to laugh about later in life! 🙂
Post # 99
That is so random and weird!!! WHY are they doing that!? I would really be pissed about that! I’m sorry but a wedding is not a free for all show – its not a concert or an “event” it is your marriage for goodness sake!!! You want to be surrounded by the people you love and who care about you – not randos who dont talk to you in public but just want to go to a good party! I am so sorry you have to deal with this shit! What do you think youre going to do!?!
PS – Fiance is getting back tonight! I survived the Vegas bachelor party!!!!!!!! 🙂
Post # 100
I can understand your fear of looking like “police bride”. I truly think though, if you said something to them (with great sincerity), you would look like the adult in the room, not the buzz kill though.
You should be able to host your wedding with all of your expectations in tact. Don’t let their bad judgement taint that for you.
Post # 101
That’s seriously the most pathetic thing I’ve ever heard. Maybe they should get real friends whose weddings they don’t have to buy an invitation for. Sad sad sad.
I like the idea of collecting the money from the people whose plus ones were “bought”
Post # 102
- Wedding: October 2010 - Rancho San Carlos
This is so bizarre! Who knew ticket scalping would enter the wedding world? 😉
Post # 103
OMG this post is getting so funny I keep laughing more and more!
I totally LOVE the subday Idea! Footlong-chips and a cookie! perfect wedding meal!
Post # 104
@clarebee: YAY! I’m so glad you survived. Is it as bad as I’m imagining? I’m happy yours is over, but I’m so jealous that I’m not in your shoes!
I know! But honestly, I would sell 20 tickets to my wedding if it meant I could keep Mrs. Crazy away!