Post # 1

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Newbee
I do like my hair down.. from hugging and all that my hair got soo messed up… when i looked at mypictures i cried so much because i kept asking everyone and they were like its fine… but omg i totally hate them and the pictures were the most important part… i really wanna beat up my photographer because i told her i wanted to go to the bridal suite and freshen up… i sent hate mail to my mom and sister for not leaving me alone and kept rushing me while i was freshening up after the ceremony just so i can go on with the program…..
Post # 3

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Buzzing Beekeeper
I’m sorry you didn’t like your hair. In the end you married the man you love, that’s what is most important.
I do however think it’s a little extreme to want to beat up your photographer and send hate mail to your family over it.
Post # 4

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Buzzing bee
Breath. Hair is not everything. More people will focus on your dress and your smile rather than your hairstyle. Plus, in 10 years, however your hair looked will most likely be out of style anyways!
And please, be nice to your family. You most likely wanted them to be a part of your wedding and the rushing and “not leaving you alone” comes with the territory. Be thankful that they were there.
Post # 5

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Helper bee
- Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)
Do you have any photos for us to confirm that it isnt as bad as you probably think?…I had a side bun and by the time we did our photos the back was falling out… Im sure your guests didn’t even notice…so I wouldn’t even worry about it. As for the final pictures for keepsakes… maybe if they bother you that much some photoshopping would help?
Post # 7

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Honey bee
@DrTeeth: Ya why would you send hate mail?
Post # 8

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Buzzing Beekeeper
My hair was messed up on my wedding day, but it was from the humidity. It lost all its curl. I was upset but then I was like “Hey, I just married the man of my dreams. Who cares!” and I got over it. I certainly did not blame anyone.
Post # 9

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Busy bee
And, I second for pics! I mean are we talking this

or this

Post # 10

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Bumble bee
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Post # 12

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Busy bee
@nursemel: ha +1
Op I hope you didn’t really send hate mail to your family that is way too extreme. I’m sure they were just trying to be involved and make sure things went smoothly. Focus in the positives from that day.
Post # 13

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Buzzing bee
IMO your over reacting. Im sure its not as bad as YOU think. Sending family hatemail is not going to change a thing. And to be honest.. your the one that decided you wanted to wear your hair down.. not them.
Post # 14

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Bee Keeper
Please just try to breathe. In an absolute worst case scenario, this could probably be fixed in Photoshop. But I’d need to actually see some pics to know for sure.
In any case, your wedding is over, and there’s nothing that can be done about it now. You should try and apologize to your family and photog–your family had the best of intentions, I am sure, and your photog may be able to come up with some creative ideas to minimize the damage, but you will always catch more flies with honey.
Post # 15

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Sugar Beekeeper
its over and done with – nothing you can change now, so i wouldn’t dwell on it. This is the exact reason why I’m pulling my hair back though.
Post # 16

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Sugar bee
Let me get this straight, first you threaten to not pay the photographer (as you indicated here) and now you are sending hate mail to your parents for wanting to celebrate with you instead of focusing on your hair? I think you are being a little harsh. How about you look at your frontal pictures. Is your hair bad in the front??? Who cares about the back of your hair.