- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
so before i start i want to say that i know the most important part of the day (3 days to go!) will be that i am marrying the love of my life but here’s the thing….
FH and i talked about what we wanted. (we are catering our own reception) and his parents decided they were going to take care of the food and would not let us pay for it. well, we decided we wanted ham and turkey amongst other things..and little baby potatoes. well, without even asking us and a week before the wedding it was decided without us that they were making chicken and ham. and i just went into the kitchen and i see big round potatoes. not the small ones i wanted (yes they taste different) and that’s not all. there will be crock pots. i specifically said i hate crock pots (no offense to anyone using them i just dont like them) were having fish too. did FH and i talk about having fish? no, they decided that on their own. apparently they didnt “know it was a big deal”..just like bridesmaid dresses not being the color i wanted or the groomsmens suits not fitting “arent a big deal”..I’ts a big deal to me! It’s our wedding. Shouldnt we be happy? and FH’s sister already told me that i’m being a bridezilla so i fell that i cant voice my opinion because then im just being bridezilla and theyll think i dont appreciate what is being done for us. and that’s not it. i do appreciate it but i also read other bee’s posts about how their day was overtaken by other peoples decisions m and they had no say in what happened and in the end of course theyre happy because you got married but youre not happy that nothing turned out the way you wanted it.
oh and today Future Sister-In-Law who is a bridesmaid and her husband is an usher (our church is very small and due to this he will have to show people where to sit and to walk down a certain aisle, and he has never been in the church) said “is it really a big deal if he doesnt go to rehearsal?” yes! i mind!
i actually feel like a bridezilla now because i am so unhappy but at the same time i have had so much go wrong and i just want things to go right now that it’s actually here. not to mention i am on birth control and it makes me super emotional and cry all the time.
a small list of things that have gone wrong
– i said the only day i couldnt have my bach party was on a fri because i work sat. and what day was it planned on?..a friday. and i was not told until last minute.
– then, Maid/Matron of Honor was texting on her phone the whole time.
-MOH grew in the bust so we had to swap from blue dresses to black at the last minute (also incurring a $40 charge for a sash)
-MOH didnt show up to my last dress fitting to learn how to tie up my dress. and she was late to a few other appointments.
-MOH never paid us back for her dress like she was supposed to.
– FH tux was ordered in the wrong size and now everyone is waiting til last minute to go try theirs on.
– i planned the wedding myself. Maid/Matron of Honor was never around
-FMIL took over our food and changed it without telling us
-everyone wants to wear black to the wedding (this is not a funeral!)
So i guess i just dont know what to do. i know i am feeling stressed in general because it is so close… and we only have 3 days! but i just feel like i want to say something but if i do everyone will think i am a b***h…
do i just let it go and let every one else have their way or say something (tastefully, of course) and stop feeling so miserable
how do i deal with this?