(Closed) My Home Life

posted 6 years ago in Home
  • poll: What should I do?
    Move : (28 votes)
    82 %
    Deal with it : (6 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
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    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I’m so sorry you are going through this.  I think instead of moving out that you should try to get your mother help… I mean, for the sake of your family and younger siblings.

    If I were you I wouldn’t be able to leave my younger siblings in an environment like that…  I’m not sure how to make her get help, but she definitely needs it, with medication things can be normal again!

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

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    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    OP, in your situation is like those cards in airplanes telling you to put the oxygen mask on yourself first. I get that you’re stuck between a rock and a hard place, but for the sake of your own mental/physical safety, you should try to remove yourself from the situation first.

    I imagine you care very much about your mom and your siblings, and if you find a way to get out, I think you can be of a lot more help to them. Getting some distance between you and the situation might put you in a position of acting, instead of constantly reacting to the unhealthy behaviour.

    In my opinion, a wedding can be more easily pushed back/set on a later date (of course if your Fiance supports you in that aspect). Abuse, like the behaviour you described, is best to be taken care of sooner rather than later. I hope you find a good solution for you, your Fiance and your family 🙂

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @eeruhlig:  I know this would probably make things worse in the immediate future, but what about calling the police when she has an episode (especially when she gets physical with you!!)?  Or calling child protective services?  It might be enough of a wake up call for her.  Again, I’m so sorry you are going through this!  I wish I could be more help!

    Post # 11
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i have home problems too, except mine are that my step-dad is an alcoholic who has some anger issues and my mom smokes cigarettes in the house every 5 minutes, making it really hard to breathe. Plus, my family is dirty, literally. Like, disgustingly dirty. Anyways, I moved home for about 6 months after college and then couldn’t take it anymore. I moved in with my fiancee’s parents (they actually asked me if I wanted to, I didn’t approach them). I don’t know if that’s an option for you, but it’s surprisingly working out great for me.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @eeruhlig:  urg, makes it difficult. 🙁 I still come to my parent’s house every so often and stay a few nights. My fiancee’s parents have a huge home and all of his siblings are away at college, so that’s why it works. I guess if I were in your situation I would just tough it out. Really, if I had to tough it out (if I didn’t have my fiancee’s amazing parents..and they really are spectacular!), I would do it. It’s worth saving the rent money. Just stay away as often as you can. When I lived at home, I would spend most of my time at starbucks doing homework and wedding stuff. I would run errands, hang out at my fiancee’s parent’s house with him, etc. I was hardly ever at home, which helped so much. If my parents really drove me crazy, I would go for a drive. Get something to eat and just….drive. It’s not too long if you think about it, just over a year.

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