(Closed) my housemates just don’t understand….

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 4
15963 posts
Honey Beekeeper

It doesn’t sound like they think having a fiance is “bad.” It just sounds like they’re at a different point in their lives and you’re right…they don’t understand your priorities.

I’m really sorry they’re making you feel so bad for the things that are important to you. I was getting my master’s while planning my wedding, so I understand that it’s a tough balance between schoolwork, time with your guy, and your planning.

I’m not defending their behavior, but it’s possible they just want to spend time with you. Could you maybe carve out one weeknight here and then to go out to dinner together or something? That might help a little bit with you needing to be gone every weekend.

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding, and good luck finishing school. I promise you can do it!

Post # 6
15963 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@SimplyChic11: During my senior year of college, one of my roomates (who is also one of my best friends, so it’s a little different) was engaged and planning her wedding. And while i was happy for her and supported her…I missed her. I wanted to spend time with her. Especially as our senior year came to a close and we all started to get nostalgic.

Like I said, not defending, I’m just trying to see it from their perspective.

But if you need space, give yourself space. You’ve got really important things going on right now. πŸ™‚

Post # 7
54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sounds like you have your priorities straight. Only two months left – hang in there! 

Post # 8
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hang on dear! You are almost there!  Don’t let them get to you. Before Fiance and I got engaged, I had an apartment with 3 other girls. None of them had SOs. They did not get that I would rather stay home and watch a movie with him then get blasted at some party.  It put a rift in our (roomate) relationship, which ened with me spending everywakeing moment in the liberary, or crying on the phone because they made me feel like shit.

YOU CAN DO IT! Dont let it get to you!


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