My husband does not brush his teeth and it is ruining our marriage

posted 11 months ago in Married Life
Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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@Daisy_Mae:  Ha! Thanks for indulging me.  I don’t think it’s gross or a big deal.  I just think it’s weird that I never noticed- I’ve lived with a LOT of roommates over the years and traveled with lots of friends!

This has been like learning there’s a completely different way to tie your shoes that everyone else knows but you tongue-out . 

Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@Shina:  she’s the best. She is an exceptional looking woman, I know it’s not uncommon for men to hit on her while in her chair. The look of embarrassment and shrinking ego must be priceless 😂

Post # 63
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Bumble bee

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@tetonlove:  😂😂  But she’s doing other women a huuuuuge favor by giving those men a reality check about their nasty unflossed breath.  I imagine OP really wouldn’t be having these issues getting her DH to brush his teeth if he had been one of her patients. 

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Newbee

Hi Bee, any update on this? I am hoping your husband has gone to the dentist since you last posted! 

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2022

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@vintagejunkie:  wow just reading this and wondering the same…

Post # 66
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Worker bee

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@inevitablehappiness:  this is also weird to me. I was taught to brush before you start speaking to people or eat in the morning. Lol. 

Post # 67
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Helper bee

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@PrincessRB:  Haha, how fascinating how much our upbringing affects what we think is strange or not! 

I think in my head, I justified brushing teeth first thing in the morning with the morning breath feeling. And talking to people after eating wasn’t odd because I talk to people after lunch without brushing my teeth anyways.

Patterns my weird brain is forced to create when it’s just so accustomed to doing something! It’s an interesting topic, I think.

However, very glad we ALL think that not brushing teeth is unacceptable. XD

Post # 69
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Helper bee

Oof. I’m so sorry. frown

Honestly, why beat around the bush? Sit him down and tell him directly and flat out that he needs to brush his teeth twice a day. Tell that it’s non-negotiable and about the way it’s making you feel toward him. Let him know that you’ve told him before and that it’s not your place to keep after him to take care of basic hygiene.

I would also ask to see if he’s having issues with depression in case that’s what’s causing this, in that case, getting help would help get him back on track.

Don’t try to drop hints and hope he’ll pick up on it. You’re wasting your time and dragging this out even longer. What could be more embarrassing than him gassing you out of your own bed?! Certainly not a conversation in an attempt to make it stop!

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