- 4 years ago
Old bee, now anon.
I’ve been married for five years and we have three boys, twins who are four and a baby who is almost a year old. The honeymoon is oficially over and has been for quite some time.
In those five years my husband wrapped up military service and started attending university. He’s almost done but this semester he’s been working a lot of group projects.
The group came over to work and one member is a strikingly beautiful young woman who could honestly not have been friendlier to both me and my kids. She’s a senior and I would guess anywhere from ages 21-25. My husband was dotting on her.
I’m not an overly jealous person and I know that men love pretty girls, especially ones with nice personalities, so I just rolled my eyes and let it go.
My husband asked me to take his phone into U.S. Cellular because it wasn’t working right and he had to be at school, so I did. I noticed he had sent literally 57 texts to this young woman in the span of a month. I assumed they were all about the project but it was nagging me so I snooped. Hey, he asked me to take in his phone right
Needless to say they were not all about the project. He texts this girl random thoughts and lunch/dinner/movie invitations (she always declines…politely). He tells her he loves the outfits she wears and that he saw some model who looks like her on television.
The thing is, her responses are always very nice but short. You can actually feel her uncomfortableness in her texts but Darling Husband is too obtuse to get it. The project they had ended last Thursday and since then he’s sent her 4 texts that have gone unanswered, telling her he’s so sad it’s over and that he wants to work with her again. He also got a new internship and before he had told me he texted her, according to the time the text was sent.
I’m actually dying from second-hand embarresment t for him. He doesn’t seem to realize that this young woman has no interest in a married father of three, especially when I imagine her choice of potential mates is hardly limited. This is hard but I’m going to say it; this girl is vastly out of his league. (I know, I have awesome self-esteem, right?)
Is it weird that rather than angry or sad I just feel…sad for the fact that he’s so egotistical he can’t read between the lines and accept that this girl was nice because they had to work on a project together? What does that say about my marriage?