(Closed) My husband has a very low sex drive

posted 8 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

There has to be something he enjoys, no?  Even…oral?  I don’t know that I’ve heard of a guy not enjoying that.  If he does, maybe you should try to sneak that on him to get him more used to fooling around? This would be tricky.  I guess you could always slip some Cialis into his pudding. (?)

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is he uncomfortable talking about this? I think the most important thing is that whatever is causing this is out in the open. He’s probably embarrassed, so it might help if you open with how much you love him and how important it is to you to show him that in… other ways. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

Post # 5
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339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

You need to have a conversation with him so he understands exactly how important this issue is.  It doesn’t allow you both to experience the level of intimacy that is afforded to married couples.  It is also a need of yours that is not being met.  Maybe if you frame the conversation this way, he may understand the issue better.

Also, just a thought, could this have something to do with a hormonal problem?

Post # 6
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

is he on any medications? that could be effecting him.

@virginiamarie my guy doesn’t like oral. i know, weird. he doesn’t think it’s as intimate and would prefer the traditional, where we can be closer.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@artbee, I wish Mr. Virginia didn’t like oral so much!!!!   Wowza.  

Side note, I do think being sexually compatible is important.  You should definitely talk to Fiance, and maybe see a sex therapist?  

Post # 8
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It may be a testosterone deficiency.  One of my friends had this experience.  He never wanted sex at all.  He went to the doctor, who checked him out.  They put him on some medication and fixed the problem ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Along the same lines as ashroehrs, has he ever discussed this issue with his doctor?  There might be something going on here that the wonders of modern medecine could easily fix.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree, talk to a doctor. Other than that, try using some sexual “suprises” ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ˜‰

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