My husband ignores me when I'm sad

posted 6 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
1891 posts
Buzzing bee

He has a choice,

couples couseling or divorce. And you promise him that if the therapist says you need your own therapist and therapy you promise to go. 


rebeccasum :  

Post # 17
1305 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

rebeccasum :  Have you ever brought up this subject to him at a neutral moment? Have you told him how it makes you feel when he walks away/ignores you when you cry? If not I would start there and be sure to highlight how much you liked it/felt supported when he behaved differently in the past.

The behaviour you describe re your poor cat is appalling. If I came home from the vet’s with news like that my husband would immediately comfort me, whether or not I was crying! Was your husband distraught himself? That’s the only explanation I could understand.

Your husband comes off as cruel and uncaring. In fact it sounds like he doesn’t give a shit about you anymore. You should tell him that’s how his behaviour translates, and ask him if it’s true.

It’s disgusting that he’s blaming you in this. But even if you *were* the problem, for example if you were majorly depressed and crying daily, he should still be caring and supportive. You and your husband are supposed to be a partnership.

At the moment I think you should just focus on your cat, don’t try to deal with another big emotional issue at the same time. When you’re feeling more stable then approach your husband again. All you can do is try to communicate how much you need his support/comfort. Ultimately this behaviour could end your marriage, he needs to know that. And you need to know that you deserve better.

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