(Closed) My husband is an ass

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@theEguarantee:  OMG my Cat is a million times worse than FI!!! right now I’m staying with my parents and their cat will pee on the carpet if I leave the door open, so my kitty sleeps with us, BUT she want’s in and out of the room ALL DAMN NIGHT!!! so she sits and cries til i let her out.  then she sits on the other side and cries til I let her back in.  Last night she was whining bc she decided she wanted water in the bath tub in my ensuite so she could drink (bc apparently the water bowl just doesn’t suffice). 

I get so so so unreasonably angry if woken in the middle of the night.  Fiance thinks its funny  and laughs at me the next day like “baby, you were soooooooo mad…!!!” and laughs.  Jerk. lol

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@sweetbee29: Life gets busy and our houses become disasters, and he’s not being fair / supportive. 

Have you thought about getting a maid? That has done wonders for Fiance and I. I also do NOT pick up after him — I already cook and do the dishes, so if he doesn’t bring the dishes to the sink, they just don’t get washed. That’s on him. 

I have a habit of leaving clothing everywhere, but I pick up after myself on the weekend, when I have more time. What drives me nuts is how there’s trash next to the trash can, when it’s not full. I just let it pile up if it’s his. 

It might be passive aggressive, but it’s better than building resentment or acting like an ass. 

tl;dr we don’t nag or blow up at each other for the little things and it sounds like your DH is. What’s up with that? 🙁

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017 - Baton Rouge, LA

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@MrsPhilly:  agh i would be cursing that cat out so hard! for me it was yesterday- i was able to sleep in a little later than normal for work. and right about the time i would have normally had to get up, i hear the cat scratching in the litter box (we keep him closed in the master bath & my side of the bed is closest). So i get up to scoop his poop so it doesnt stink up the whole house. Well apparently he had gotten some poop on the tile floor & i didnt notice til the next morning, But he stayed scratching the floor, scratching the litter for like 20 min trying to cover this smear of poop on the floor he just couldnt seem to get rid of and the whol time i was cursing him out in my head just trying to get an extra 30 min of sleep!! SO angry!!!

Oh & i’ll mock Fiance if hes talking to the cat when i’m trying to sleep. I feel like he just wants to talk forever & so loud while i’m trying to take a nap or something. Where when he’s napping, i tip toe, listen to the tv really low and be as considerate as possible. So i get up and just like well EFF THAT NAP and mock everything he was saying while i was trying to sleep lol gah now i feel like the ass! lol

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Absolutely no excuse for how mean he’s being!  I know if either me or my husbnand were sick for any length of time we would not be ordering the other to clean up and exploding at them for the smallest inconvinience to us… Wow, I just…wow.

I’m sorry you had to put up with this, OP.  Has he always been like this?

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

And you’re married to him why….?

Post # 37
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

What a jerk.  Why doesn’t he clean up his own goddamn house?

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@sweetbee29:  That’s terrible. He should be nicer to you when you’re sick and try to take care of you, not treat you like that. I get how annoying snoring is but I have never flipped like that on Fiance. Hopefully you feel better soon and hopefully your husband gets an attitude adjustment.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If DH treated me that way, I would tell him to shove it where the sun doesn’t shine. Absolutely no excuse for him to be such an asshole when you are sick. Sick on his birthday weekend? Waaah, cry me a river, he could have still gone out with his friends and done something even if you were sick.

Make me clean the house while I’m sick? NOT A CHANCE. If he is so displeased with the state of it he can bloody well do it himself. Not cool OP. I’m sorry for you.

Post # 40
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Does he not live in the house too? What kind of dick bitches at his wife to clean up when she’s sick in bed.. I’m sorry the guy sounds like a royal douche.

I’d a.) tell him to clean the house himself if it matters so much or  b.) throw many water bottles on the floor in spite.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

OP, I think there’s something else going on here.  Does your husband have anger issues?  Have you fought about things like this before?

Post # 42
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@stardustintheeyes:  I would have ripped him a new asshole if he had said that to me. totally unacceptable.

^ +1 exactly what i would’ve done!!!

 

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yeah, he is being a huge asshole. Why couldn’t he clean the house? That’s not your job because you’re the woman. That is a MAJOR overreaction to snoring. Sure, snoring can be annoying, but you’re really sick and this is temporary. My husband snores every night and I don’t get mad at all. Just annoyed when it’s crazy loud. I’m sorry. You don’t need to deal with that after having been sick for so long.

Post # 44
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Um. What? Your husband is being an ass. I started a new medication that makes me feel like royal poo. My Fiance has done nothing but take care of me. I can’t even imagine him making me get up when I was sick to clean the house.

The next time he is sick–make sure his ass gets up and goes to work.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Many people just “don’t do sick.” It sucks for sure, but it does happen, especially if someone has prolonged illness. A 10 day sinus infection sounds a little extreme; have you been to the doc? 

I would suggested having your tonsils removed. I did and I stopped snoring completely.(I didn’t have them out solely to fix the snoring, I had frequent strep as well.

Anyway, hopefully he will apologize. I hope so.

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@sara_tiara:  This.  Lack of sleep can make me an unbearable beast.  Not excusing the behavior, just pointing out my own experience.

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