- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
From my ENT’s office.
From my ENT’s office.
oooh I want to snuggle into that chair, and that armoire is beautiful!
@sweetbee29: You are right, your husband sounds like a huge ass. Why cant he get off his backside and clean instead of putting all that on you when you have been so sick, a relationship is give and take and all the cleaning should not be put on you, especially when he knows you are unwell. And to be mad at you for being sick on his birthday is just ridiculous, I am going to agree with a majority of pps and say there could possibly be something else on his mind which is making him blow up like that.
All that said, I really hope you feel better soon and that your DH pulls his head in and stops being such a jerk.
He has a history of being selfish, not being compassionate and he seems pretty self-centered. How could you be so inconsiderate as to be ill on his birthday? Your snoring really annoys him (I actually kind of get this – but if the snoring is so bad, then he should either move to another room, or ask you to), you haven’t been cleaning up and heaven forbid that he chips in and picks up the slack while you’re sick – so he’s not doing so well on that whole “in sickness and in health” concept. Then he manipulates you into helping him move and unpack furniture rather than wait for more able-bodied and healthy help.
Unfortunately, the phrase “when someone shows you who they are, believe them” comes to mind. Hopefully your counsellor can help you address how you choose to deal with him.
I don’t like the sound of this at all, especially his waking you up to yell at you.
Depriving someone of sleep is serious behavior.
What is he like when you have arguments?
Women are seemingly so OK with “but he’s so wonderful MOST of the time….” Like it’s a golden ticket for when they are a total dick! I mean, everyone is going to have human moments of “ugly” but what I see on these boards frequently are examples of over the top nasty, ridiculous behavior. And I’m flummoxed and repulsed by most women telling themselves and each other that “it’s ok!….there’s a reason for it….” Um, NO, there really isnt. Good, nice people behave nicely and treat others around them well despite what may be irritating them. Nasty, mean, selfish people don’t!
OP, I’ve been sick myself over the last month, so I get your station in life right now. I am so sorry that your husband treats you this way. I hope the counseling helps you and I hope he’s willing to man up and change his nasty ass selfish behavior. No way to live life at all. I’d tell him to shove that beautiful new chair straight up his ass and invite him to live on that new couch, while IIIIIIII got much needed rest and recuperation, snoring in MY OWN BED! Seriously, your posts make me so mad for you!
lol I’m a brat so to piss him off I would thrown all the dirty tissues on the floor gabbed my blanket, my pillow, head phones with music and slept somewhere else.
There has to be soemthing deeper than snoring and cleaning. My SO snores every night and yes it bothers me and keeps me wake for awhile but he can’t control it there is no point in waking him up all night.
If he’s always like this I don’t see an exciting future ahead.
He was like “I’m tired of this. I had to deal with you being sick on my birthday weekend.”
Wow–way immature, not to mention thoughtless. How would he treat you if you became seriously sick requiring meds, dr. visits and any kind of testing and homecare, all of which can be draining?
His frustration with your snoring I can understand, my guy and I sleep in separate rooms. But his treatment of you when sick is a HUGE concern for me.
@sweetbee29: I’m sorry you’re sick, and have to deal with that kind of attitude to boot! 🙁 I’ve only had one sinus infection in my life, and I seriously wanted to rip my own head off. The pain, the pressure, I couldn’t even think!
Does your husband usually have issues with anger? Maybe you would be better off in the spare bedroom until you get better – for your own sanity?
Apparently I snore and sleep talk frequently. I never know about it until the next day when SO will say ‘you were talking all night again’. He never wakes me, although I tell him to because I disturb his sleep. All your DH has to do is roll you on your side, or nudge you gently awake to change positions, or move to the spare room without making a fuss. No need to be a jerk about it. You’re sleeping, and not intentionally ‘disturbing the peace’ on purpose, and you’re also sick and can’t help that. As for the housework, well naturally that’s going to be last on your ‘to do’ list. But he lives in the house too, and is well enough and capable enough to pull his own weight and clean up as needed.
The very evil side of me would say, share the sinus infection and see how much he feels like doing…
To me it sounds like maybe he was already annoyed with you about something else. When you’re already irrirated with a person then every.single.little.thing they do aggrivates you. Otherwise to react like that simply over snoring sounds really crazy. If he isn’t typically like that then I would definitely think he is upset about something else.
well i hope you feel better soon….. having said that, I don’t think I would ever refer to my hubby as an Ass on a public website, but that’s your choice. Perhaps you shoulld talk to him to find out what the problem is, we can all demonize him, but perhaps as someone else stated there is something else going on. If you guys can’t talk to each other then you might consider some couples counseling.
lean to work things with our huband, if you refer to him as an asshole that is how others will treat him… at the end of the day all couples both male and female can do things that are insensative, the question is what do you do with it.
Never let the sun go down on your anger..
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