Post # 1
Hello bees I am in need of serious feedback from all of you. I have been married for 3 years and been with my guy for a total of 6 years , the last 2 years he has been getting extremely comfortable with me to a point where i am not anymore. I don’t know if this is normal but he has been farting so much during the day and the night and during sex… It is god awful to the point that it is not cute anymore , It makes me feel uncomfortable because he doesn’t even try to hide it anymore and sometimes it grosses me the heck out. It’s the worst when we are trying to be intimate and sometimes he stops what hes doing and runs out of the room to fart in the hallway and i hear this gross loud huge wet fart and I get turned off. This is becoming an issue for me because I do not act this way I am very understanding of him and i love him but his behavior is just making me less attracted to him.
I tried to express to him if he can just try to not be so abrasive about it because it bothers me and nothing has changed. He also has no manners he burps without saying excuse me when we are ay family dinners and i get so embarrassed because i honestly don’t understand whats so hard about having table manners with family around and i am just getting sick of how he is acting. I will probably delete this thread but i just wanted honest feedback from you bees to see if this is normal for our partners to get so comfortable??? Its getting to the point i don’t want to have sex anymore because i know something is going to happen and he may need to step out or let it rip during our next time being intimate..
Post # 2
Maybe he thinks that it’s funny or cute. I’d be less understanding about it. Tell him that it’s not acceptable, ESPECIALLY if it turns you off.
My husband and I never fart in front of each other on purpose.
Post # 3
If my partner did this during sex—not just let slip a rare accidental fart but farted loudly & obviously repeatedly during sex—I would be done having sex at that point. I think he’ll learn pretty quickly to stop if sex ends every time he lets one rip. Stop being so understanding and make clear that you need to have at least some boundaries around bodily functions. Does he have some kind of intestinal issue going on? Or does he really just not care?
Post # 4
The table manners around family is definitely something you need to speak to him about and tell him to knock it off.
However, it is possible that the farting isn’t his fault. You say he leaves the room to do it. Thar suggests to me that he can’t help it but at least has the decency not to do it right in your face.
I had some major gastrointestinal issues last year that took several months and several doctors, followed by a naturopath, to figure out. It was awful. I was gassy all the time and in pain. I had to hold my farts in all day at work and at home I tried my best to let them go in the washroom but that is damn near impossible to maintain when you literally have to fart again 30 seconds after the last one, and the longer you hold it the more us hurts.
Is your husband in physical discomfort? He should see a Dr about it if that is the case.
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If you brought it up to him, and he’s not acknowledging your being uncomfortable, he isn’t being a true partner to you. If he was always this way it would be one thing, but it sounds like he gradually stopped caring.
Post # 7
If he has to stop sex to run out into the hallway to let out a huge gross fart, and this happens regularly, I would think he has some sort of gastro-intestional issue, because that is not normal. I mean, everyone farts, and when you are living together you are going to let one slip every now and then. But letting out gross smelly farts “at all times of the day and night” leads me to believe a visit to the dr would be a good idea. Maybe he is lactose intolerant, or celiac or something. A diet change might make a world of difference.
Post # 8
I have the same question as a PP, does he have stomach issues? It doesn’t seem normal or healthy to fart so much that he can’t even get through sex without having to let one out. I’ve had my fair share of stomach issues as well and it gets really uncomfortable. I would ask him to check with a doctor on that if he hasn’t already.
besides the burping at the table (could be another health issue) and not saying excuse me, is he otherwise polite and have good manners? was he like this before you got married or did you just tolerate it before?
Post # 9
diamondgirl523 : Is it possible he has IBS or some other digestive problem?
Post # 10
diamondgirl523 : if he’s farting as much as you say j think he should see either a doctor or a nutritionist or both. He could have ibs or a dietary intolerance or something
Post # 11
My husband and I are totally comfortable with each other. I mean, we dont even close the toilet door when its only the two of us in the house. I don’t really care if he farts, and he doesnt care if I fart. I feel as comfortable with him as I do by myself. I’ve never felt so comfortable with any other person, and I personally like that we dont have to censor ourselves or pretend that we dont have perfectly normal bodily functions. Its not like he purposefully farts around me or anything – I wouldnt like that. I would have more of a problem with the lack of manners around other people however. My husband is very polite when we are in other peoples company.
Post # 12
I agree with other posters, it actually sounds like he has a pretty serious problem. Who actually stops sex to leave the room and do a massive fart? That isn’t normal, I don’t think he thinks it is cute, I think he needs to see a doctor.
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With that much gas I agree with the others. There could be some sort of digestive issue. I have to watch my diet because I am lactose intolerant and have some other food issues but if I consume a lot of dairy it can give me painful gas among other effects. He should probably go get checked out to.make sure everything is okay.
But if it comes back he is fine then that is another issue entirely.
Post # 15
YUCK! I do not find body functions funny. I accept them as natural and sometimes a burp/fart slips but ewww I would not tolerate what your Darling Husband is doing.
I would be firm and clear that he is disgusting you and turning you off. Tell him it needs to stop NOW or you wont want to have sex. He’ll get the message.