(Closed) My husband is going overseas without me.

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

My husband has been traveling a lot lately.  I just try to do things on my own (I’m pretty independent, don’t need people to go with me to the store or anything).  It’s hard but keeping busy makes it easier.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m in an LDR, and I would second the keeping busy suggestion.  Make plans with friends or treat yourself to a massage or something.  And maybe he can call you or email while he’s gone so it doesn’t seem so bad! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I travel a ton for work, so I know how difficult it can be ๐Ÿ™  Maybe you could use it as an opportunity to reconnect with girlfriends who you haven’t gotten to see as much since the wedding? It’s also a really good time to catch up on movies you haven’t seen that you know your husband wouldn’t like ๐Ÿ˜‰ I agree with MissAsB, it helps if you keep busy. Darling Husband and I try to talk on the phone every night, even if it’s just for a couple minutes, which helps a lot too.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My FH is going to Finland in a few weeks.  I am so jealous!!!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think you will be fine girl, Sure the nights will be a little wierd but its good to have that independence!  Im sure you will find lots of stuff to do and catch up with alot of people. Sydneys great anyway, lucky him!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

My Darling Husband doesn’t travel, but rather lives about 1200 miles away right now ๐Ÿ™  I know it sounds cliche, but staying busy is sometimes the only thing that keeps me sane.  When I come home and just sit around, I start to go crazy.  I’ve been trying to schedule more time with friends, doing my own hobbies, enjoying “me” time, because once he’s here, I’ll have to make room for him in my everyday life…if that makes sense lol

Here’s a little bit of an idea.  When my Darling Husband was in Iraq, when I would really really start to miss him, I would write him a letter.  It was my way of staying connected to him even when we couldn’t talk at that exact moment.  Maybe write your Fiance a note of gratitude each day he’s gone.  It could be anything, something that you love about him, a good memory, a feature you find attractive, etc. And when he gets back, you can give them to him.  It’s a fun way to think about your guy and be productive/romantic/generous at the same time!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My perspective might be skewed because I’m in a long distance relationship and my fiance is in the military, but I’ll share for what it’s worth! Two weeks will probably seem like a long time, but you can do things for yourself, relax entirely and have “you” time, keep busy, and it will fly by!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Everytime Fiance and I were apart, I tended to increase my exercise regiment naturally as an outlet. Maybe he needs to disappear for a few days haha!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I know how you feel. I was away on business for 2 weeks and a day after I returned Fiance went on a 2 week business trip, luckily this is not normal for us. I slept in the guest bed for most of the time because our bed was lonely haha. I usually rely on Fiance to drive me places like grocery shopping as well so when he’s gone I shop one day at a time on my way home from work or I eat takeout more.  This time I was pretty jet lagged but normally when he is away, I try to use my free time to do self improvement type things, eating healthy, plucking my eyebrows, painting my toe nails, an extra load of laundry, house cleaning etc. Think about what it is you were meaning to do but kept putting off because you spent the time doing something else and get it done while you have no one to distract you. Make plans to catch up with friends, work late, get a massage. organize something at home. This way you will get something done and have something to take your mind off of his absence.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I travel for work. I get SO busy and so exhausted being in ‘work mode’ i forget that i’m away. My husband always manages just fine without me (although i admit I find cans of things like ravioli and regular milk instead of our ‘normal’ food items once i come home). He did a great job cleaning everything up so that I came home to a clean house, a nice meal, a fridge full of groceries, etc. So, do all that so that when he gets home, you get to spend time together! Keep busy, go to the gym, make WHATEVER you want for dinner (for me, this would include a ton of foods my husband really despises!) and i’d go out with my friends more! Or just watch whatever I wanted on TV.

It’ll go by fast. Write him emails when you get bored!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m the one who leaves frequently.  I go back to Canada to visit at least once a year for at least once a month, and because I have so much more holiday time than Fiance (5 months as opposed to 5 days for him!), I use some of that time to travel.  We’re usually okay although we don’t talk on the phone much because we have some literal communication problems on the phone (FI has more problems speaking in English on the phone than in person). 

We regularly text each other all day when we are together, so when we are apart, we send lots of short emails all day so they act like texts.  We also send ‘surprise’ email gifts – like once he found some old pictures of himself when he was a year old and scanned them and sent them to me.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m in a LDR with Fiance since June 2009 and we live 3000 miles apart. The hardest part is the first few weeks but after a while it becomes normal not to be together. Keep yourself busy and take time for yourself.

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