My husband is not invited

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Honestly I wouldn’t go to a wedding without my husband. If he weren’t invited, thanks but no thanks, not attending. 

Same when we were engaged.

you invited her boyfriend at the time and they’re inviting other couples but not YOUR husband?

id talk to her. 

Tbh it’s super rude of her. I wouldn’t even talk to her I’d just back out but I’m irrational like that. 

Post # 62
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Busy bee

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penguin8407 :  “How can someone ask you to celebrate their marriage when they won’t acknowledge yours?”

This! Seems very rude that they are not inviting your hubby.

Post # 64
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

It happened to me.  My Fiance of 9 years was invited to his cousin’s wedding…I wasn’t.  This was someone I had previously met, on a number of occasions, so I wasn’t a complete stranger to her. 

Myself and Fiance are in a LDR, I have two pets, no family and can only very occasionally get my ex H to look after them if I go away.  She chose to have her wedding during a Bank Holiday weekend in one of the most expensive areas of the country – even if Fiance attended on his own, it would cost him more than a week’s holiday abroad to attend!

FI’s cousin used my health problems against me – I’m bipolar and approx 6 months before her wedding I’d had a relapse.  He was told ‘we don’t know whether she will be well enough to attend, so we aren’t inviting her’…so I was effectively being punished for being ill.  

This is a woman in her early 50s,  which to me made it all the more shocking.  Fiance was put under a lot of pressure by his parents to attend – he didn’t.    Doing this to a well established/married couple is as rude AF, as far as I’m concerned. 

Post # 65
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2018

So wait – you’re “sociable enough” to be her matron of honor…and for your husband to watch HER kids…but not enough to be invited? I would withdraw or ask her to reconsider not inviting your husband. All of my bridal party was allowed a plus 1

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