(Closed) My husband is not my soulmate.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you believe in 'soulmates'?
    Yes : (137 votes)
    42 %
    No : (170 votes)
    52 %
    Other (Explain) : (18 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    8453 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Mrs_Sailor:  I didn’t used to believe in soulmates, but then I met my husband.  I’m not Christian though, so god has nothing to do with “picking someone” for me.  To me, a soulmate is someone that you’ve gone through many lives with (I believe in reincarnation).  I personally would never get married if I didn’t think my husband was my soulmate, but obviously this isn’t for everyone.

    Post # 4
    9682 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I don’t believe in “the one” so if soul mate means the same thing in this context, then no, I don’t buy it. I fully believe you can be completely compatible with lots of folks, and who you marry is who you happened to find first. Spouses die and people get divorced – in a lot of cases, new partners are found who make them equally happier or even happier.

    I’m logical at heart, not romantic, so this “the one” concept screams of a crappy chick flick I don’t want to watch.

    Post # 5
    2227 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    Yeah, I totally agree with this article. I love my husband and he brings so much joy into my life but I’d still be complete without him. Guess I’m not so romantic either :-/

    Post # 6
    1586 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I don’t believe in soulmates. Call me unromantic, but I think there are a couple dozen perfect people out there for you. 12 in billions is still quite a small perfect number, but I don’t think that there is only one perfect person for you in all of the world that you keep finding every time you’re reborn. I think you find a person perfect for you and you fall in love and spend your life with them and you are meant for each other, but it isnt’ a cosmic push.


    For the record, I’m also an atheist, so I don’t go for the whole soul thing.

    Post # 7
    6124 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I don’t believe in the soulmates or “the one” concept either.

    Post # 8
    9142 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    The sheer logistics of soul mates and how they would work just renders the whole idea ridiculous to me.  But if you believe in it and he believes in it, then you could definitely consider yourself to be soul mates.  But I personally don’t believe in the concept of soul mates at all (nor does my Fiance.)

    Post # 9
    1416 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @MrsRugbee:  +1 Ditto.


    I also don’t believe in a “one” and I don’t believe in soulmates. I love my husband, I am extremely happy with him, but I fully 100% believe I could be extremely happy with somebody else if I had happened to meet another nice smart etc person whom I got along with at the same moment in time when I was emotionally ready to meet somebody. He just happened to be the one who was around when I was ready to be with somebody seriously, it’s all coincidence/luck, I don’t believe in fate or anything like that.

    Post # 10
    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I love my husband with all my heart, but I do not subscribe to the theory of soulmates. 

    Post # 12
    9682 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @MrsFutureG:  +1. I’m agnostic, leaning towards athiest, so if I don’t believe in souls, then I sure don’t believe they can mate 😛

    Post # 13
    9682 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    Whoops. “…equally happy or even happier.

    Some of us – me – need to learn how to speak 😛


    Post # 14
    1411 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I do believe in soulmates, because to me the word just means someone who can help make your soul happy for the rest of your life, and possibly after that as well. In a world this big, it’s silly to believe that there’s just one of those, I consider my fiancé my soulmate and my best friend my platonic soulmate. I agree that choosing every day to follow a path with someone is a beautiful thing, but choice and soulmates are not mutually exclusive. I don’t follow any

    organized religion but I don’t consider myself agnostic or atheist either. 🙂

    Post # 15
    370 posts
    Helper bee

    I used to, but I’m starting to think that soulmates is something cooked up by Hollywood to make us buy into that whole romantic comedy thing. It would be great to think there was one perfect somebody that would just…”Get you” in every way. But I don’t believe that. I think that a relationship is work. It grows, it evolves. It’s like a living breathing thing. I don’t think that is pre-destined. I think that is something you work at. Not “ordained” by a being.

    Post # 16
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I do believe in soulmates (though I wouldn’t exactly call it that, I’m from a different religion than the author of this article and have different beliefs than her in regards to that and what exactly a soulmate is). At the same time I agree with the majority of the article when the author talks about making choices in life and choosing your path. 

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