(Closed) My husband is not my soulmate.

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
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  • Post # 47
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t believe in souls, or soulmates, or the one, or destiny, or any deities. I believe in choice-mates. You make that person special by choosing them, they aren’t special until you do, and you can choose to be with however many people you want in your life, and if one doesn’t end up working out, there are probably others you can choose who will work out fine.

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My husband is amazing and i love him more than life.  But i have always said my best friend (MOH)  is my soul mate. who said it had to be the same sex???

    There are times when i feel that im moving farther away from her (she actually moved after the wedding) and becoming even closer with my husband than with her.

    I have known her since i was a baby. We used to live in a town of 600 ppl, we would see each other all the time, but still put the phone in a plastic bag and talk in the shower. why i needed to talk to her in the shower idk. you think i would have been busy. There are just things that he doesnt understand like her. I could say three words and have her rolling on the floor. that no one, not even my husband would think to be that hilarious.She was there next to me when we watched my dad die. Shes like a sister. I have a sister but not like her.

    I do believe that my husband is the ONE. but Does that mean he also has to be my sould mate?? There is no other way i could have met him if it wasnt desiny.

    In fact i totally believe you can have more than one soul mate because if i had to choose between THE ONE and my soul mate . my best friend and my husband. i would kill myself…thats horrible. not really but i would just self combust. Does anyone watch greys A. ? When they realize they (meridith and christina) are not each others person anymore… I feel like im going threw that with my best friend. My DH is now become my person but i feel like ive betrayed her. idk im getting dramatic and semi off topic.

     

    Post # 49
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    Blushing bee

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    @housebee:  Thank you! Yes, he’s a sweetheart. ^.^

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

    This is a cute article! I believe in soulmates, but there will always be more than one soulmate for us, depending on the actions we choose, such as the places we choose to live. The butterfly effect of probability of outcomes, lol.

    Had I not chosen to come to North America, I probably would have found someone else who could fit in the soulmate category — I wouldn’t end up with the same person I would be marrying today. I don’t know if that makes sense?

    There are too many factors for The Only One to happen. For Fiance and myself, it would be timing of how we met, where we met, interests & music tastes we share, how we became good friends before we started dating, how other guys didn’t stack up; etc. We did blurt out at one point that we believed we are each other’s soulmates. However, the article brought one important point home — regardless whether we believe in soulmates or not — that Love is a conscious decision/act.

    There must be a reason why Mathematicians and Statisticians can’t put LOVE into an equation. It’s like taking the square root of -1.

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @Overjoyed:  +1! Same here.

    Post # 52
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    This really made me think. I believe that my husband is a perfect match for me, and for whatever reason, we “work” as a pair. We are opposites on the Meyers-Briggs personality test scale which I think helps. However, I do believe he is a once-in-a-lifetime person. I can fathom the idea that I’d be compatible with another, based on reason and probability, but I cannot deny that the way our lives were wound together and the person he is is totally right for me.

    Post # 53
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @Overjoyed:  OMG this is exactly how myself and my Fiance feel:) 🙂

    Post # 54
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

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    @trueblue14:  my daughter was my Mother more than once in previous lives and still tried to boss me around in this one! I finally had to tell her that this time, I was the Mom and she had to listen to me for a change. She did not even blink when I said this.

    That is SO interesting! 

    Post # 55
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I guess I believe in soulmates to an extent. I know he is the right person for me NOW. However, if something were to happen like we get a divorce or he dies, I think I can find someone else as equally suited for me. DH says that, if it doesn’t work out with us, he’s not dating again. Everyone is different.

    Post # 56
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @EmeraldTiger:  Agreed!

    I’m relgious, so I feel that God has a plan for us to meet our SO, so in essence, that IS your soulmate. Ive dated other guys before meeting my FH, but it is only while dating my FH that certain weird coincidences have been occurring. They way things happen in our lives/relationship daily, it’s gotta be faith. Almost reminds of the movie Serendipity. These things never happened with anyone else. So I do believe in devine interventions, where God appears in situations that He plans for us.

    Post # 57
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Hey everyone – I wrote a rebuttal to this blog post that several of you might find very encouraging. You can read it here: http://wp.me/1D08i 

    I’d love to hear your thoughts!

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee

    I don’t believe in souls.

    Post # 59
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I believe.  And for me DH was not a right place, right time anything.  We both travelled 16 years and dated and fell in and out of love.  I moved to DH’s town and the first time I saw him I was drawn to him.  I had other dates and boys pursuing me…and DH was very shy and def was not looking for a gf.  We dated on and off for 11 years.  We lived separate lives, chased different dreams, got on our feet…and all the while we were still drawn to eachother.

    So whatever it is, past lives, magic, chemical imbalances…I’ll take it.  And choose to believe he is my one and only soul mate.  Though I have loved others…I have never considered any of them my soul mate…it was always DH.

    Post # 60
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would not be the same person without my husband, he is my world and I am his. I believe totally in soulmates, we have been together since school for 15 years and married for 7 weeks and I couldn’t amagine life without him.

    Post # 61
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I found (as did my close friends) that your soulmate is often there to challenge you and make you grow. They very often are not the person you end up with. They ‘get’ you on a very profound level, but IME soulmate relationships often don’t last or are difficult. My soulmate came into my life so that I could learn important life lessons. These lessons have changed me permanently and made me who I am.

     

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