(Closed) My husband is not my soulmate.

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you believe in 'soulmates'?

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  • Post # 62
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    576 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I didn’t beleive in soulmates or “the one” until I met my boyfriend. I had no idea what love truly met until I found him. No, I don’t think I need him to complete me, I was complete without him, but I can’t imagine spending my life with anyone else. Before I met him I honestly thought that I would never get married, because I couldn’t imagine living with another person. I like my space, but I can easily imagine combining my life with my boyfriend. He is absoloutley the one for me.

    Post # 63
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    4687 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I think we as humans like to believe what is put before us is “for a reason” and tell ourselves our husbands are our soulmates. I believe there are many people out there that would be just perfect for us and make us very happy. It’s just easier for us to believe we have married our “soulmate”. 

    Post # 64
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    273 posts
    Helper bee

    I find the concept of soulmates to be incredibley depressing and boring. Where’s the fun and excitement in life if everything is preordained?

    And soulmates in the sense of “one person preordained to be with you, no one else is right” is depressing and completely illogical. What if my soulmate is some sherpa in Nepal? What kind of god/entity/force that can preordain things would be sadistic enough to give you only one perfect match in a world of 3 billion possibilities, and even if you did bump into them they could have a completely different outlook religiously, politically and might not even speak your language. Load of BS.

    Post # 64
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    729 posts
    Busy bee

    Two years ago, I was 4 years into a relationship with my ex. I would have said no, but that there are many people I am compatible with, and he is one good fit. I hated when people said “you just know” until I met my fiance. We fit in many surprising and really unique ways. We still fight like anyone, but now I answer your question with a yes.

    Post # 65
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    29 posts
    Newbee

    I love this thread. And I voted yes. 

    I am a hopeless romantic and always have been. I’ve been in a couple of long term relationships (2-4) years. I thought that that was it. I always questioned to my friends at which point in relationship are we able to see ourself marrying the other and spending the rest of our lives together? My friend said it comes with time and building on the relationship. She doesn’t believe in “the One”. 

    Now that I have met my Fi, I believe even more so that soulmates exist. We connected instantly and I felt a level of understanding both ways that goes beyond love. Many of us have seen the Notebook right? I finally realize what it is like to be in such a relationship whereby one absolutely goes crazy over the other person. Before Fi and I became engaged, I felt that if ever our relationship didn’t work out, I would never be able to forget him. 

    I think many PPs have said they were complete without thwir partner, but I feel that although everything in my life was great before meeting Fi, he was the missing piece that I didn’t know was missing. I believe that we were fated to be together. That is what soulmates are. It might seem ridiculous to think out of 7 billion people, I met the love of my life in the same city – but maybe this is where you were meant to meet. M

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