- 2 months ago
- Wedding: November 2010
Bee, it is so concerning that we see so many women on this board who find partners that they think they will fix or cure.
Your post was rife with reminders of how horribly his parents treat him and the scapegoat thing. That excuses nothing.
Your role, as you saw it was to be there for him and protect him. Presumably, you thought you could protect your husband from his parents.
Bee, dear one, how in gawd’s name could you have done that? These people are extremely enmeshed in a very toxic stew that passes for a family,
There was never the slightest chance you could help your husband deal with his parents or heal from the tremendous damage they have done.
This marriage was doomed from the start.
You, Bee, are the outsider.
The only thing that could possibly help your husband would be therapy. Years of it with someone who specializes in trauma recovery. And, it’s something he would have to seek on his own initiative.
Sweetheart, when you got involved with this guy, you walked straight into a buzzsaw.
I am happy that you are receiving support from a counselor. Does your counselor have expertise in treating PTSD? You have some degree of it, no question.
I am truly sorry for all you have suffered through. And I don’t enjoy telling you that there is no possibility that this can be fixed.