(Closed) my husband lost his job and now he's depressed and its depressing me.HELP!!

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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598 posts
Busy bee

Try a career counsellor. Maybe you could go with him. Go to an employment center and take some tests to see potential careers. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@rozzy:  I’m sorry for you both. i wouldn’t worry too much about him being depressed and mopey. He’ll eventually shake it off. Give him time to process everything and decide what his game plan will be.  I’m a believer that things happen for a reason, another door will open for him and probably a better one at that:) Good luck to you both! 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Give him a little time and space to process this on his own.  If he doesn’t come out of it  and he’s starting to look like a less clean version of the guys on Duck Dynasty, you may have to tell him to get off his a$$, get showered and cleaned up, and start thinking about what he wants to do. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@rozzy:  Have a little faith:) 

 

@MariContrary:  LOL! I love Duck Dynasty

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

when Did He lose his job? if it was a few days/ week.ago tjen i would just let him mope and be sad…

if it was like months ago then its time to sit down and talk…..maybe a patent/relative/ trusted friend could say something

 

be positive and encouraging, try to use positive reinforcrment (wow baby 5 resumes in one day! you are a rock stsr vs that’s.all you did today?) 

 

having been there i know it can be hard…guys tie a lot of self worth.to.yheir jobs and it can be double hard for them 

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Like a PP poster said, if this recently happened then I would give him a little bit of time. If its been going on for months then I would encourage him to get up and out of the house. I can’t stand sitting at home day after day – its just depressing to me. Losing your job is awful, but then having to just sit around and do nothing only makes it worse!

Maybe he could visit a local college to get some information on programs they offer.

 

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Buy him the book “What Color Is Your Parachute?” It’s all about figuring out what you are good at, what your goals are, and proactively taking steps to achieve your goals. Also, find your own happiness independent of him. Mr. LK has his weeks, and I used to take it so personally. I kept thinking that if I was awesome enough, that would somehow compensate for the other sh*t going on in his life and I could make him happy. Wrong. So wrong. As soon as I let go of that idea and focused on keeping me happy, it became much easier for me to cope with his issues and for me to help him cope. It’s not perfect by any means now, seeing as he is still miserable at his soul-sucking job with its soul-sucking commute, but at least I’ve found a way to cope with his unhappiness in a manner that benefits all of us in the household.

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