(Closed) My husband never came home tonight… Am I crazy?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Inconsiderate and worthy of being miffed at him for a bit. However, stop your brain from taking it further “this isn’t normal and it means something bigger.”  Sometimes, people have to blow off some steam and bond with their friends. It’s only happened once, and the real issue is that you didn’t know and were worried.. That’s all.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Miss Country Chick:  Is this the first and only time this has happened? I’d be furious, but people make mistakes. So then I would say “FI, this behavior is disrespectful and rude. You said you would be home around noon. When I arrived home at 430, you were not home and had not called. Our pets were alone for an unacceptable amount of time. You did not come home until X time. I expect this to never happen again.”

And then if he is going out, you set a “be home by” time and he sticks to it. I have had to have this convo with husband SEVERAL times and it drives me insane. Partially it’s that I’m a stickler for time – if he says 7, I expect 7. Not 730. Not 8. 7.

I wouldn’t suddently decide not to have a baby over a one time thing he did. If it’s a continuing pattern, we might reconsider.

When did he finally come home?

Post # 20
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Helper bee

I would be absolutely livid – but mainly because of the dogs.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@Miss Country Chick:  I would be SO MAD and you have every right to be. He has responsibilities at home – the dogs – and he should have at least gone to let them out. And the not telling you he was still out? Absolutely unacceptable. 

What were your plans? Just dinner or something together or with other people? My Fiance sometimes will say “oh yeah lets go to dinner friday” and then turn around and make plans with his guy friends. Still though – absolutely no excuse. My Fiance would be in the DOG HOUSE.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@Miss Country Chick:  Have you called him recently to find out where he is? 

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee

I would not be happy about this at all. My SO told me one night that he wanted to go out with his friends, but he would probably only be out until 9-10 PM at the latest. I told him that was fine, but I’d like to spend some time together because we’d be working completely opposite shifts for the next three days, and by the time I’d be getting home he would most likely already be in bed those days. He said yes, yes I’ll be home early because I want to spend time with you. 1 AM rolls around, and I finally just went to bed after finding out that he was still alive. He knew I was pissed at him, but came home all in a huff saying that I should let him go out once in a while with his friends. I told him, “okay, I’m going to bed now. I’ll see you tomorrow at midnight when I get home from work.” I don’t think he realized that he wouldn’t see me for that long…He never did that again! LOL

I mean I genuinely don’t care if he wants to go out. I’d prefer that it is planned ahead of time just so I don’t have anything that I need or want him to do, but it’s not a big deal really. He doesn’t go out that often. I just want to know that he’s okay, and I want him to tell me if he’s too drunk to drive. I also don’t see the point of him being out with friends for six hours when him and I don’t even go out for that long together EVER.

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yeah, I would be super pissed, but there isnt much you can do while you wait. Play with your puppies, take a long bath with a glass of wine…until he gets home and then shit could get real.

Post # 30
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Newbee

I am the worst at giving advice but all I can say is I would personally be upset too. My Fiance and I have a policy that we text eachother that we are safe. If this is his first time doing this I would try to not rip his head off althought I know it might feel difficult to do 🙂 I would let him know that what he did was not really cool and that you would want him in the future to xxxxx. Good luck!

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Miss Country Chick:  I’d be so disappointed- first, because of the dogs, and second, because he is skipping out on your Friday night together. My dog is my baby, too. Giant hugs! 

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