(Closed) My husband wants me to do something for myself

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Aw, it’s always good to have outside interests even if all you want to do is stay home with your husband. Does your city have a good Parks & Rec dept? Ours offers all kinds of classes (I’m partial to the dance ones) for good prices and it’s fun to get out and try something different.

And I’m 27-going-on-70, so I took up knitting. It’s very calming and it relaxes me when I’m stressed out.

Post # 4
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m into making my own bath and body products, perfume, etc. trying to turn it into a business. It isn’t cheap or easy, though. I also am a member of a local Toastmasters club (public speaking and leadership). I originally signed up to help since I am so shy when it comes to public speaking and my job requires a lot of it, but it’s evolved and keeps me quite busy.

Tell him Wedding Bee is your hobby hehehe.

Could you do something for free like go out running for an hour a few times a week? Maybe meet up with a friend to walk once or twice a week (I used to do this)?

I can’t say I blame you for not wanting to spend $$ or commit to anything. I like my free time as well.

Post # 6
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I read A LOT and watch terrible television. 

I also like to cook elaborate meals for us for dinner. ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 7
3943 posts
Honey bee

I totally understand. I am a homebody and act like I am 85 usually. Ive actually been joking that I need to get a hobby after the wedding is over, since it currently takes up all my free time.


Post # 8
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

wow..i do a lot of hobbies when im NOt planning a wedding. i crochet, read, cook,other crafts, garden, sew, plan parties for others, do calligraphy, etc. 

i would look into what interests you, maybe even volunteer @ pet center or something..the more enjoying it is to you- the more likely you will stick to it

Post # 10
9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Mrs. Gremmlin:   It’s hilarious (in a cute way) that your hubby wants you to get a new hobby but you’re content without one.  And, yet, you’re considering it.  ๐Ÿ™‚

I can see my FI and I having a similar argument, lol.  He wants what he feels is best for me but I’m fine as I am and content with my life as it is, I don’t need more.  I think sometimes men want us to know they don’t take us for granted by offering these things, and it’s sweet, really.

I make jewelry and cook, to answer your question.  And garden.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Reading, crossfit, quilting, and canning are the main things I do for fun.  

He’s an avid hunter and fisherman, so that pretty much takes care of all his “hobby time” but we are also both scuba divers.  

Post # 12
954 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What about a hobby that doesn’t have a specific time frame and maybe you can even do at home?  Tons of stuff….





-reading books at the coffee shop or going to Barnes and Noble

-taking one-off classes you see in the Comm. Ed brochures or Groupon

-reading at home


Post # 14
1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I do dance and horseback riding.  Dancing can be fairly inexpensive if you go to the Y or something, or swimming at the Y as well.  If you like reading, maybe you could join a book club.  Good luck finding something you love!

Post # 16
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m a bit of a homebody too. I work 60-70 hours a week, and when I have free time, I usually just either veg out (watch TV or read a book) or do some cooking for the next week. I’m trying to get myself back into figure skating to give myself something to do, but it’s hard to fit it in sometimes.

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