Post # 1
And I’m not very happy about it. I just can’t get over the idea of him becoming road pizza because some distracted driver didn’t check their blind spot before merging right into him. It doesn’t help that my dad is a personal injury attorney and he always told us “motorcycle accidents put you through college.”
In addition to the safety aspect, I just feel that they are loud, smoggy, and pretty useless where we live because you can only really use them 4 months/year and during those months, there is constant construction which makes driving anything a frustrating experience.
How can I get over my fears/annoyance and just be happy for him?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Mr. LK would like to get one eventually. I told him that he is a grown man and can make his own decisions. I also told him that him being on a motorcycle would make me a constant nervous wreck whenever he was out on it, and that I would greatly appreciate it if he would stick to his big azz truck. Although he still wants his motorcycle, he does understand where I am coming from and values my mental wellbeing more than he values a motorcycle. So maybe you just need to explain your feelings to your hubby and he will change his mind?
Post # 4
look into motorcycle safety courses in your area. they teach riders how to handle themselves in all the situations which run the risk of making them into “road pizza” and it might give you peace of mind.
Post # 5
If the motorcycle conditions where you live are really that bad, odds are he’ll self-police better than you ever could! Darling Husband is a big-time motorcycle enthusiast — he used to race on tracks and whatnot, so he knows what he’s doing. When he moved to VA, he pretty much stopped riding because the drivers here are so bad, and then sold the bike several months ago. He won’t buy a new one until we live somewhere where they can be used the way they’re supposed to!
So just remember — as much as you don’t want him to die, he doesn’t want to die even more!
Post # 6
my husband wants to get one as well… I keep telling him if he gets one then I get one, and we can not afford 2 biles!! he doesnt really want me on a bike lol so he has held off, so far its working 🙂
Post # 7
I would have a lot of trouble getting over it too. Maybe you two could make a compromise where he only takes it out on long, desolate roads with two lanes (as opposed to the interstate).
Post # 8
Darling Husband wants one too so we’ve compromised and are now in the market for a scooter, lol. I know they’re not even remotely close to the same thing but we need to work our way up to being motorcycle owners (besides, I think my Father-In-Law is going to want to sell his Harley in a few years so if we can hold off that long, it’ll be good for our bank account). Frankly, I just can’t wait to see my husband on a scooter. It’ll quite possibly make my year.
Post # 9
My fiance has a harley. He is extremely cautious while riding. He is in his early 40’s so no crasy riding. He took many private lessons before buying one. I am not very happy with the bike thing but I want to be supportive in his hobbies.
A good thing that he is busy with work and stuff and does not have many chances to ride it. Maybe once-twice a month for a couple of hours. No winter rides. So believe it is not that bad as it sounds.
Post # 10
I’d recommend striking a compromise with him where he needs to have appropriate gear and training. My dad has ridden all sorts of motorcycles for 40+ years without an accident, and now teaches classes. There is specialized gear – coats, pants, etc – that increases visibility and protects you from the road if you are in an accident. And even for familiar riders, classes that refine your skills and teach specific defensive driving techniques for bikes are really valuable.
Honestly, I think riding a bike with little experience and in shorts and a tshirt can be truly dangerous. But for someone who loves riding and takes it seriously, it really can be safe.
Post # 11
Darling Husband wants one as well and I put my foot down. It’s one thing I refuse to have in this house, and I even told him it would make or break our marriage. He’s known I have a huge issue with them since we started dating, so it’s not like anything has changed.
That being said, our neighbors have all got ‘dirt bikes’ cross ‘motorcycle’. They are basically dirt bikes that are street legal. They all take them camping and to off road areas and very seldom drive them on the street (only up and down our square). I still told Darling Husband no to this idea, but maybe it’s a though for you.
Post # 12
One of my good friends got in a horrific motorcycle accident, and FI’s dad did too when he was younger. I would talk to him and ask if it’s because he wants thrill or excitement, because there are many other far safer outlets for that.
Post # 13
@MerryC: Speaking of motorcycle apparel… We saw a woman on the back of a bike yesterday wearing shorts, flip flops and a tank top. They were on the highway (in rush hour) weaving in and out of traffic. It was almost cringeworthly.
Post # 14
My husband used to own a motorcycle and is really big into muscle cars, etc. He now works as an automobile forensics and thinks that motorocycles are a terrible idea. Still loves the muscle cars though….
Post # 15
I’m in a similar predicament. Riding on the back of a motorcycle still makes me nervous, but I actually enjoy it now. There is always risk, true, but a car also gives you a false sense of security.
Let him make his own choice, but under two conditions–he always wears a helment and he has good life insurace, lol. Seriously.
90% is paying attention and driving safely and defensively. I hated the noise they made too until it sunk in that loud pipes really do save lives. The noise isn’t just to be annoying, it’s a safety feature. Now I appreciate the noise.
Post # 16
My Darling Husband had one early in our relationship. In our state you have to do a safety couse to get your license. We really enjoyed going for rides in the summer, but once we had our second Dirty Delete we never had time to ride it.